{"id":1524,"date":"2020-10-19T14:03:29","date_gmt":"2020-10-19T13:03:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/?p=1524"},"modified":"2023-12-11T15:07:14","modified_gmt":"2023-12-11T14:07:14","slug":"une-ti-dhe-zoti","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/analize\/une-ti-dhe-zoti\/","title":{"rendered":"Un\u00eb, ti dhe Zoti"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cJam gej dhe jam biri yt. Dhe asnj\u00ebra nga k\u00ebto dyja nuk do t\u00eb ndryshoj\u201d, jan\u00eb fjal\u00ebt e Jared Eamons, djalit t\u00eb Marshall Eamons, pastorit baptist dhe pothuajse me k\u00ebto dy fjali p\u00ebrfundon edhe filmi\u00a0<em>Boy Erased<\/em>, por jo edhe lufta p\u00ebr pranimin e njeriut q\u00eb nga shoq\u00ebria konsiderohet si devijim. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb luft\u00eb q\u00eb p\u00ebr armiq ka me boll\u00ebk. T\u00eb thuash\u00a0<em>jam gej,<\/em>\u00a0do t\u00eb p\u00ebrball\u00ebsh me t\u00eb krishter\u00eb, mysliman\u00eb, nacionalist\u00eb, patriot\u00eb, tradhtar\u00eb, fallxhor\u00eb, kumarxhinj, gjykat\u00ebs, m\u00ebsues t\u00eb etik\u00ebs, historian\u00eb e vras\u00ebs serik, sepse q\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb k\u00ebta kan\u00eb nj\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt, t\u00eb metat e tyre i p\u00ebrkasin normales, por nj\u00eb homoseksual konsiderohet vet\u00eb e meta. Prandaj, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e leht\u00eb q\u00eb nj\u00eb individ, nj\u00eb i ri, ose nj\u00eb e re, t\u00eb dal\u00eb publikisht t\u00eb flas\u00eb p\u00ebr orientimin e vet seksual. Nuk mund t\u2019i shpreh\u00eb as n\u00eb familje, madje, aty \u00ebsht\u00eb vendi ku mbruhet ndrydhja. E si mundet nj\u00eb\u00a0<em>teenager<\/em>\u00a0ta gjej\u00eb kuraj\u00ebn t\u00eb dal\u00eb para familjes s\u00eb tij dhe t\u00eb deklarohet se \u00e7far\u00eb orientimi seksual ka, kur ai\/ajo jan\u00eb rritur me iden\u00eb se ata duhen martuar e t\u00eb ken\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb. Se si ai duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebhet burr\u00eb, kurse ajo e d\u00ebgjueshme. Ku ta marr\u00eb guximin e t\u00eb shprehet kur ka par\u00eb se si n\u00eb familje fshihet s\u00ebmundja, e i s\u00ebmuri (sepse i s\u00ebmur\u00eb je, n\u00ebse ashtu thon\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt). Ne si shoq\u00ebri kolektivisht nga nj\u00ebri-tjetri i fshehim kancerin dhe s\u00ebmundje t\u00eb tjera (madje edhe COVID-in). I fshehim t\u00eb \u2018s\u00ebmur\u00ebt\u2019, i mbyllim n\u00ebp\u00ebr bodrume q\u00eb mos t\u00eb na i shoh\u00eb shoq\u00ebria, sepse ende si shoq\u00ebri p\u00ebr kur\u00eb e kemi hoxh\u00ebn e priftin. Pastaj, kur n\u00ebp\u00ebr media d\u00ebgjon politikan\u00eb q\u00eb p\u00ebrmes skemave nacionaliste nd\u00ebrtojn\u00eb narracionin e nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebrie t\u00eb p\u00ebrsosur, ku &#8220;t\u00eb devijuarit&#8221; e till\u00eb nuk kan\u00eb vend. Sipas k\u00ebtij kuti, familje e p\u00ebrsosur dhe shoq\u00ebri e p\u00ebrsosur jan\u00eb ato q\u00eb e fshehin, e kamuflojn\u00eb, e shtypin, e nxjerrin jasht\u00eb deri edhe e vrasin dik\u00eb q\u00eb p\u00ebr moralin e tyre \u00ebsht\u00eb i pap\u00ebrsosur.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cLe t\u2019i ngrehin duart lart t\u00eb gjith\u00eb ata q\u00eb nuk jan\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrsosur. Dhe tani le t\u2019i ngrehin duart ata q\u00eb jan\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrsosur.\u201d Me k\u00ebto dy fjali t\u00eb pastorit baptist hapet filmi\u00a0<em>Boy Erased<\/em>, i regjisorit Joel Edgerton, e q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb i bazuar n\u00eb memoaret e Garrard Conley. N\u00eb fakt, k\u00ebto dy fjali kan\u00eb premisa religjioze, rrjedhimisht edhe ngarkesa morale. Konsiderohet se pap\u00ebrsosm\u00ebria na karakterizon ne t\u00eb gjith\u00ebve kur jemi p\u00ebrball\u00eb hyjnores, e cila karakterizohet nga e p\u00ebrsosura. Mir\u00ebpo, kur jemi n\u00eb raport me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin k\u00ebto dy kategori nuk kan\u00eb miratimin ton\u00eb sikur n\u00eb rastin e par\u00eb, sepse tani hyjnorja nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb q\u00ebllimi yn\u00eb, por mjeti p\u00ebr ta luftuar tjetrin. Nga kjo p\u00ebrplasje kishte lindur dikur edhe morali. Disa jan\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb pap\u00ebrsosur se disa t\u00eb tjer\u00eb, sepse kan\u00eb ikur nga rruga e Zotit. Ky devijim si rezultat ka t\u00eb pamoralshmen, lig\u00ebsin\u00eb. Prandaj, n\u00eb\u00a0<em>background<\/em>\u00a0t\u00eb k\u00ebtyre dy fjalive t\u00eb lartcekura \u00ebsht\u00eb gjyqi moral, jo i p\u00ebrcaktuar nga Zoti, por nga njeriu n\u00eb em\u00ebr t\u00eb Zotit (sic!). \u201cZoti nuk do t\u00eb t\u00eb doj\u00eb k\u00ebshtu si\u00e7 je tani\u201d, i thot\u00eb udh\u00ebheq\u00ebsi i nj\u00eb qendre kinse rehabilituese, nj\u00eb t\u00eb riu, i cili nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb sa duhet\u00a0<em>burr\u00eb<\/em>. Pasi \u2018pacienti\u2019 i ri nuk pranon se \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00ebkatar, i organizohet nj\u00eb gjyq moral, ku p\u00ebr t\u2019ia hequr demonin nga brenda, njer\u00ebzit mblidhen dhe e godasin me Bib\u00ebl, me k\u00ebt\u00eb lib\u00ebr t\u00eb shenjt\u00eb q\u00eb \u2018vret\u2019 shpirtrat e lig\u00eb q\u00eb kemi brenda nesh. E kushedi se \u00e7far\u00eb shijesh parap\u00eblqen Zoti apo se \u00e7\u2019orientime\u00a0seksuale parap\u00eblqen ai p\u00ebr njer\u00ebzit?! Kujt ja shpalosi ditarin sekret t\u00eb tij, apo ne e konstruktuam at\u00eb ditar sekret dhe i dham\u00eb pron\u00ebsi (autor\u00ebsi) hyjnore?<\/p>\n<p>Edhe k\u00ebto programet q\u00eb paraqiten si nj\u00eb mund\u00ebsi q\u00eb p\u00ebrmes terapive t\u00eb mund\u00ebsohet konvertimi kinse nga orientimi seksual i gabuar, n\u00eb nj\u00eb orientim seksual normal, kan\u00eb si q\u00ebllim q\u00eb moralisht ta kthejn\u00eb shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb p\u00ebr s\u00eb mbari. Prandaj, Jared Eamons, djali i pastorit baptist vihet n\u00ebn presion p\u00ebr t\u00eb ndjekur nj\u00eb program t\u00eb till\u00eb terapie konvertimi, n\u00eb nj\u00eb kamp t\u00eb krishter\u00eb antihomoseksual p\u00ebr adoleshent\u00eb n\u00eb Arkansas. Kamp q\u00eb ka si synim ta kthej njeriun e\u00a0<em>krijuar nga Zoti<\/em>\u00a0n\u00eb\u00a0<em>rrug\u00ebn e Zotit<\/em>. T\u00eb till\u00ebt Zoti nuk i do dhe prandaj ne normal\u00ebt, ne t\u00eb moralshmit e marrim t\u00eb drejt\u00ebn nga hyjnorja q\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb amoralitet ta pastrojm\u00eb dhe k\u00ebshtu Zoti t\u00eb ndihet i k\u00ebnaqur, kurse ne t\u00eb shp\u00ebrblyer. N\u00eb fakt, ky nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb hall i Zotit, por i yni. P\u00ebrmes portretizimit t\u00eb tjetrit ne sikur mundohemi t\u2019i japim kuptim vetes son\u00eb edhe n\u00ebse tjetrin e l\u00ebndojm\u00eb. Mbase, sa m\u00eb shum\u00eb l\u00ebndim, aq m\u00eb shum\u00eb k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi. Nietzsche thoshte se\u00a0<em>ne kur i japim l\u00ebmosh\u00eb lyp\u00ebsit, nuk i japim q\u00eb ta nxjerrim nga gjendja ku \u00ebsht\u00eb katandisur ai, por p\u00ebr ta bindur vet\u00ebn q\u00eb nuk jemi n\u00eb pozit\u00ebn e tij dhe ky \u00ebsht\u00eb kulmi i k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsis\u00eb<\/em>. Morali konservativ shoq\u00ebror na do t\u00eb p\u00ebrsosur, sepse p\u00ebrmes k\u00ebsaj k\u00ebrkese shoq\u00ebria mundohet t\u2019i mbuloj\u00eb pisll\u00ebqet e saj. Shoq\u00ebrit\u00eb me t\u00eb tilla k\u00ebrkesa jan\u00eb me tipare totalitare. E till\u00eb n\u00eb mas\u00eb t\u00eb madhe \u00ebsht\u00eb edhe shoq\u00ebria kosovare. Morali i k\u00ebsaj shoq\u00ebrie \u00ebsht\u00eb i pamoralsh\u00ebm, sepse projekton tek individi (tjetri) njeriun e p\u00ebrsosur, \u00e7far\u00eb ajo vet\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb dhe p\u00ebr ket\u00eb nuk duhet t\u2019i vij\u00eb keq. E p\u00ebrsosura dhe e pap\u00ebrsosura jan\u00eb dy an\u00ebt e s\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebs peshore, por nuk jan\u00eb vet\u00eb peshorja, p\u00ebr faktin e thjesht\u00eb se shoq\u00ebria nuk mund t\u2019i protokolloj cenet apo avantazhet, e aq m\u00eb pak ndjenjat\u00a0e individ\u00ebve.<\/p>\n<p>Prandaj, nj\u00eb gj\u00eb e till\u00eb nuk duhet t\u00eb lihet n\u00eb dor\u00eb t\u00eb shoq\u00ebris\u00eb, por duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb p\u00ebrpjekje, p\u00ebrve\u00e7 e mekanizmave t\u00eb ndrysh\u00ebm t\u00eb organizimit qytetar, q\u00eb p\u00ebrmes institucioneve shtet\u00ebrore t\u00eb nd\u00ebrmerren edhe hapa konkret, duke filluar n\u00eb ligje, pastaj n\u00eb arsim, q\u00eb n\u00eb libra shkollor\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebsohet dhe diskutohet pa ngarkesa morale. N\u00ebse duam q\u00eb t\u00eb kemi nj\u00eb familje normale, nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebri normale dhe nj\u00eb shtet normal, at\u00ebher\u00eb njer\u00ebzit q\u00eb kan\u00eb orientime\u00a0t\u00eb ndryshme seksuale nga ne, nuk duhet detyruar t\u2019i ndryshojm\u00eb, por jan\u00eb familja, shoq\u00ebria dhe shteti ato q\u00eb duhet filluar t\u00eb ndryshojn\u00eb, sepse k\u00ebto tri shtylla jan\u00eb barriera, mohuesit e liris\u00eb s\u00eb shprehjes, e liris\u00eb s\u00eb t\u00eb deklaruarit at\u00eb \u00e7ka mendon dhe \u00e7far\u00eb je. Pse qenka kaq e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb, n\u00ebse jo ta duam, s\u00eb paku ta pranojm\u00eb tjetrin ashtu si\u00e7 \u00ebsht\u00eb, pa pretenduar n\u00eb ndryshimin e asaj si duket, apo si sillet? N\u00ebse d\u00ebshirojm\u00eb ta ndryshojm\u00eb tjetrin edhe bot\u00ebn, at\u00ebher\u00eb e kemi shansin, ta nisim nga vetja jon\u00eb.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cJam gej dhe jam biri yt. Dhe asnj\u00ebra nga k\u00ebto dyja nuk do t\u00eb ndryshoj\u201d, jan\u00eb fjal\u00ebt e Jared Eamons, djalit t\u00eb Marshall Eamons, pastorit baptist dhe pothuajse me k\u00ebto dy fjali p\u00ebrfundon edhe filmi\u00a0Boy Erased, por jo edhe lufta p\u00ebr pranimin e njeriut q\u00eb nga shoq\u00ebria konsiderohet si devijim. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb luft\u00eb q\u00eb [&hellip;]<\/p>","protected":false},"author":266,"featured_media":1525,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[13],"tags":[749,765,690],"ppma_author":[733],"class_list":["post-1524","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-analize","tag-foreign-cinema","tag-lgbtq","tag-social-justice"],"authors":[{"term_id":733,"user_id":266,"is_guest":0,"slug":"dritan-dragusha","display_name":"Dritan Dragusha","avatar_url":{"url":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/10\/dritan.webp","url2x":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/10\/dritan.webp"},"user_url":"","last_name":"Dragusha","first_name":"Dritan","description":"Dritan Dragusha \u00ebsht\u00eb i diplomuar n\u00eb filozofi, n\u00eb Universitetin e Prishtin\u00ebs. 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