{"id":3044,"date":"2016-10-10T15:32:07","date_gmt":"2016-10-10T13:32:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/?p=3044"},"modified":"2024-12-17T15:34:24","modified_gmt":"2024-12-17T13:34:24","slug":"rrugetimi-i-vajzes-ne-grua-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/analize\/rrugetimi-i-vajzes-ne-grua-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Rrug\u00ebtimi i vajz\u00ebs n\u00eb grua"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Historia e saj fillon prej momentit kur nj\u00eb z\u00eb teknologjik zbulon seksin e saj. \u00cbsht\u00eb vajz\u00eb dhe t\u00eb gjith\u00eb ngarendin p\u00ebr t\u00eb krijuar hap\u00ebsir\u00ebn e ve\u00e7ant\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn ajo do t\u00eb rritet. Veshjet me ngjyr\u00eb roz\u00eb e nis rrug\u00ebtimin e saj n\u00eb nj\u00eb bot\u00eb, s\u00eb cil\u00ebs ajo gjat\u00eb gjith\u00eb koh\u00ebs do t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqet t`i jap\u00eb dashuri, kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb k\u00ebrkesa. Dashuri kjo, e cila mbetet n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtin stad, pa kap\u00ebrcyer n\u00eb dimensionet e tjera asnj\u00ebher\u00eb. Seksi dhe veshja nuk jan\u00eb t\u00eb vetmet q\u00eb p\u00ebrcaktojn\u00eb identitetin e saj. Barbit dhe veshja s`jan\u00eb elementet e vetme p\u00ebrcaktuese. N\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn m\u00ebnyr\u00eb p\u00ebrdoret edhe krijimi i hap\u00ebsirave t\u00eb ve\u00e7anta n\u00eb kopshte dhe lodra dyqanesh, si nj\u00eb premis\u00eb fillestare p\u00ebr kufizim, dallim, shmangie, margjinalizim. E \u00ebmb\u00ebl, e but\u00eb, pak djall\u00ebzore jan\u00eb tiparet q\u00eb pranohen ve\u00e7 derisa ajo t`i b\u00ebj\u00eb hapat e par\u00eb jet\u00ebsor, p\u00ebr t`u b\u00ebr\u00eb m\u00eb pas p\u00ebrcaktuese t\u00eb fatit t\u00eb saj.<\/p>\n

Ky \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebm fillimi. Vajza e vog\u00ebl me t\u00eb hyr\u00eb n\u00eb klas\u00ebn e par\u00eb, skalit qart\u00eb figur\u00ebn e saj. Pas familjes, shkolla \u00ebsht\u00eb hap\u00ebsira tjet\u00ebr n\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn asaj i p\u00ebrcaktohet ndryshueshm\u00ebria nga tjetri- nga ai. K\u00ebsisoj, ajo mund ta shoh\u00eb veten n\u00eb ilustrimet e faqes s\u00eb par\u00eb, e ndodhur gjithnj\u00eb n\u00eb pozicion pas v\u00ebllait, sepse roli i saj dyt\u00ebsor \u00ebsht\u00eb parap\u00ebrcaktuar q\u00eb m\u00eb lindje, teksa s`jan\u00eb t\u00eb pakt\u00eb ata q\u00eb besojn\u00eb se kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb edhe pun\u00eb e \u201cnatyr\u00ebs\u201d apo p\u00ebr besimtar\u00ebt e zotit.<\/p>\n

Pra, \u00ebsht\u00eb ajo q\u00eb kujdeset p\u00ebr v\u00ebllain, ia shtron tryez\u00ebn, i ndihmon n\u00ebn\u00ebs, e trajton babai me delikates\u00eb, e n\u00eb esenc\u00eb gjat\u00eb gjith\u00eb koh\u00ebs \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb kundruese e zhvillimit t\u00eb familjes, por pa t\u00eb.<\/p>\n

Narracioni i t\u00eb gjitha teksteve \u00ebsht\u00eb pothuajse i nj\u00ebjt\u00eb. Ajo s`mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb sikurse djali, ndaj as nuk mund t`i b\u00ebj\u00eb disa pun\u00eb q\u00eb nominalisht n\u00eb sensin e mend\u00ebsis\u00eb s\u00eb etabluar patriarkale, njihen si t\u00eb djemve. Ajo, pra mund t\u00eb kryej\u00eb nj\u00eb num\u00ebr t\u00eb kufizuar pun\u00ebs, q\u00eb p\u00ebrkojn\u00eb me \u201cnatyr\u00ebn\u201d e saj, t\u00eb cil\u00ebn shoq\u00ebria n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi \u00ebsht\u00eb e p\u00ebrkushtuar dhe interesuar ta paraqes\u00eb si \u2018t\u00eb but\u00eb\u2019, nj\u00eb asociacion tipik p\u00ebr pren\u00eb, e cila gjithnj\u00eb ekziston sall p\u00ebr t`u sakrifikuar.<\/p>\n

M\u00ebsuesja \u00ebsht\u00eb modeli sekondar p\u00ebr t\u00eb. Ky miksim i roleve prind\u00ebrore\u00a0 profesionale e vendos\u00eb vajz\u00ebn n\u00eb pozicion konfuz dhe n\u00eb dilema. Megjithat\u00eb, ajo e kupton se \u00ebsht\u00eb vajz\u00eb kur i sheh shok\u00ebt e klas\u00ebs dhe shoqet. Dallimin nd\u00ebrmjet tyre nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb fundamental, por veshja \u00ebsht\u00eb dimensioni i vet\u00ebm q\u00eb e p\u00ebrcjell at\u00eb dhe q\u00eb nuk ndryshon asnj\u00ebher\u00eb. Pra, \u00ebsht\u00eb dallimi i par\u00eb dhe i fundit ekzistencial.<\/p>\n

Kthehet n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, pak para se t\u00eb filloj p\u00ebrkushtimin ndaj detyrave, n\u00eb filmat e \u201cBang Bang\u201d, e identifikon veten dhe shoqet e saj. Nj\u00eb princ i bukur fillon t\u00eb futet n\u00eb \u00ebndrrat e saj. Ai \u00ebsht\u00eb shp\u00ebtimtari, pushteti i t\u00eb cilit mund t\u00eb arrihet vet\u00ebm n\u00ebse ajo do ta zot\u00ebroj rolin e saj deri n\u00eb perfeksion dhe t\u00eb ofroj\u00eb dashuri ndaj tij dhe gjith\u00e7kaje q\u00eb i rrethon. Fabula e saj ka gjini …sepse \u00ebsht\u00eb ajo q\u00eb i jep jet\u00eb dhe e krijon rendin q\u00eb bota synon\u00a0 ta realizoj. \u00cbsht\u00eb trupi dhe linja e saj q\u00eb p\u00ebrcakton, madje fatin e t\u00ebr\u00eb shoq\u00ebris\u00eb.<\/p>\n

F\u00ebmij\u00ebria gradualisht transformohet n\u00eb adoleshenc\u00eb, e cila b\u00ebhet lidhja kryesore me t\u00eb papriturat. K\u00ebtu ndodh nj\u00eb mobilizim i p\u00ebrgjithsh\u00ebm i t\u00eb gjith\u00ebve kur ngrihen n\u00eb k\u00ebmb\u00eb p\u00ebr ta kontrolluar dhe disiplinuar at\u00eb. Nuk i tregojm\u00eb asgj\u00eb. Ajo e kupton se di\u00e7ka \u00ebsht\u00eb duke ndodhur me t\u00eb, madje n\u00eb p\u00ebrmasa t\u00eb misterit. Trupi i saj fillon t\u00eb shnd\u00ebrrohet nga nj\u00eb njohje abstrakte n\u00eb at\u00eb konkrete, n\u00eb nj\u00eb presion t\u00eb papar\u00eb nga t\u00eb gjith\u00eb. Inferioritetin e saj p\u00ebrpiqen t\u00eb deshifrojn\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb: prind\u00ebrit dhe v\u00ebllai si nj\u00eb dimension i r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm i ruajtjes se pozit\u00ebs s\u00eb saj. Velloja e bardh\u00eb b\u00ebhet bardh\u00ebsia e dinjitetit t\u00eb saj shoq\u00ebror, e cila e send\u00ebrton at\u00eb n\u00eb grua. Tjetri m\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb as i huaj, as i rreziksh\u00ebm. Tjetri \u00ebsht\u00eb\u00a0 esenca e nd\u00ebrtimit t\u00eb saj. Prandaj, ikja b\u00ebhet mision. Ikja si refuzim nga presionet e \u00e7do disipline dhe pushteti absolut i familjes. Liria e saj \u00ebsht\u00eb e fituar kur ajo arrin nga pasiviteti dhe inferioriteti t\u00eb \u00e7lirohet nga pushteti. Tani ajo i dor\u00ebzohet nj\u00eb pushteti tjet\u00ebr q\u00eb e p\u00ebrcakton dhe e fuqizon rolin e t\u00eb qenit grua. Vajza tani \u00ebsht\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb grua, dhe martesa nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb linja legjitime e vetme, ndon\u00ebse ajo u b\u00eb grua q\u00eb nga hapat e par\u00eb kur asaj iu dha p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsia t\u00eb ket\u00eb kujdes n\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka dhe t\u00eb ruaj me dashuri veten\/trupin dhe t\u00eb gjith\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt q\u00eb e rrethojn\u00eb. Kulti i t\u00eb qenit e virgj\u00ebr nuk p\u00ebrfshin vet\u00ebm trupin e saj, por nga trupi ajo brend\u00ebsohet n\u00eb inferioritetin e saj, t\u00eb k\u00ebrkuar nga shoq\u00ebria, e me pas shnd\u00ebrrohet n\u00eb nd\u00ebrgjegje t\u00eb saj. Shoq\u00ebria nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb pasqyra, n\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn ajo veten shikon, por pasqyr\u00eb e thyer brenda e saj. Ajo identitetin e saj m\u00eb nuk e percepton, por e ndjen n\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet nd\u00ebrgjegjes. E di sakt\u00eb se \u00e7far\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb duke b\u00ebr\u00eb edhe kur t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt m\u00eb nuk e gjykojn\u00eb. Ajo e di se \u00e7far\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb jesh grua \u201ce mir\u00eb\u201d dhe \u201ce keqe\u201d. Por, \u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka q\u00eb zien brenda e saj…liria q\u00eb hera her\u00ebs i d\u00ebftohet si nj\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr. E, kjo liri \u00ebsht\u00eb frika q\u00eb shpesh e b\u00ebn t\u00eb palumtur. Kjo palumturi \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebdija e krijuar p\u00ebr t\u00eb kaluar\u00ebn e saj…, ndaj lehtas ik\u00ebn prej saj, sepse liria nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb sinonim i vet\u00ebdijes- por trishtim!<\/p>\n

K\u00ebtu ndodh shk\u00ebputja. Kur vajza p\u00ebrballet me lirin\u00eb e shnd\u00ebrrohet n\u00eb objekt. Ky transformim nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb d\u00ebshira e saj… por k\u00ebrkesa q\u00eb asaj ia shnd\u00ebrrojn\u00eb n\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00eb kinse t\u00eb saj\u00eb. Tani, ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb e ngacmuara n\u00eb rrug\u00eb,\u00a0 e dhunuara n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, apo e stigmatizuar n\u00eb role… Trupi dhe fytyra e saj jan\u00eb maska q\u00eb ia skalit kjo shoq\u00ebri, transcendenca e s\u00eb cil\u00ebs i mohohet, duke imituar thelb\u00ebsoren dhe imanenten.<\/p>\n

Kjo nuk zgjat shum\u00eb, vet\u00ebm derisa ajo t\u00eb p\u00ebrfundoj\u00eb inspektimin p\u00ebr pozit\u00ebn dhe rolin e saj. Lindjen. Ajo tani \u00ebsht\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00eb…Nd\u00ebrgjegjja e t\u00eb qenit \u201cn\u00ebn\u00eb\u201d \u00ebsht\u00eb gjykimi tjet\u00ebr se vet\u00ebdija e saj mbetet e fjetur, nj\u00eb heshtje p\u00ebrpara nj\u00eb shtr\u00ebngate. Ajo p\u00ebrt\u00ebrin\u00eb rac\u00ebn! G\u00ebzimi q\u00eb i sjell lindja e nj\u00eb djali mund ta p\u00ebrforcoj lirin\u00eb. Si nj\u00eb parakusht p\u00ebr trash\u00ebgimin\u00eb familjare, si nj\u00eb katarsis p\u00ebr lindjet e m\u00ebpasme, ku ajo m\u00eb nuk i n\u00ebnshtrohet presionit q\u00eb n\u00eb ngjizje t\u00eb parap\u00ebrcaktoj\u00eb gjinin\u00eb e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs.<\/p>\n

Ajo s`vendos p\u00ebr asgj\u00eb. \u00cbsht\u00eb fati, i cili p\u00ebrs\u00ebritet. V\u00ebllai…babai…n\u00ebna, porse ajo asnj\u00ebher\u00eb. Liria, nganj\u00ebher\u00eb tin\u00ebz troket n\u00eb der\u00ebn e saj. Shikon kalimthi, drejt n\u00eb sy sikur k\u00ebrkon duel.<\/p>\n

N\u00eb dit\u00ebn nd\u00ebrkomb\u00ebtare t\u00eb vajzave, reflektimi mbi lirin\u00eb e tyre \u00ebsht\u00eb \u00a0vet\u00ebdije. Vet\u00ebm kur ato arrijn\u00eb t\u00eb edukohen, ta realizojn\u00eb t\u00eb drejt\u00ebn e tyre n\u00eb pron\u00eb, kur nuk p\u00ebrzihemi n\u00eb ndjenjat e saj p\u00ebr trupin dhe s`lejojm\u00eb q\u00eb ai t\u00eb shnd\u00ebrrohet n\u00eb turp, e b\u00ebjm\u00eb subjekt: vajz\u00eb apo grua.<\/p>\n

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Historia e saj fillon prej momentit kur nj\u00eb z\u00eb teknologjik zbulon seksin e saj. \u00cbsht\u00eb vajz\u00eb dhe t\u00eb gjith\u00eb ngarendin p\u00ebr t\u00eb krijuar hap\u00ebsir\u00ebn e ve\u00e7ant\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn ajo do t\u00eb rritet. Veshjet me ngjyr\u00eb roz\u00eb e nis rrug\u00ebtimin e saj n\u00eb nj\u00eb bot\u00eb, s\u00eb cil\u00ebs ajo gjat\u00eb gjith\u00eb koh\u00ebs do t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqet t`i […]<\/p>","protected":false},"author":418,"featured_media":11270,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[13],"tags":[1221,2086],"ppma_author":[816],"class_list":["post-3044","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-analize","tag-grate","tag-narracioni"],"authors":[{"term_id":816,"user_id":418,"is_guest":0,"slug":"sibel-halimi","display_name":"Sibel Halimi","avatar_url":{"url":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/12\/Sibel-Halimi-e1701785550870.jpg","url2x":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/12\/Sibel-Halimi-e1701785550870.jpg"},"user_url":"","last_name":"Halimi","first_name":"Sibel","description":"Sibel Halimi ka mbaruar studimet MA n\u00eb departamentin e Sociologjis\u00eb n\u00eb Universitetin e Prishtin\u00ebs. Aktualisht \u00ebsht\u00eb e angazhuar si ligj\u00ebruese n\u00eb l\u00ebnd\u00ebn \u201cStudime gjinore\u201d, n\u00eb Departamentin e Filozofis\u00eb si dhe asistent profesore p\u00ebr grup l\u00ebnd\u00ebsh n\u00eb departamentin e sociologjis\u00eb n\u00eb Fakultetin Filozofik."}],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3044","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/418"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3044"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3044\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":11273,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3044\/revisions\/11273"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/11270"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3044"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3044"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3044"},{"taxonomy":"author","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/ppma_author?post=3044"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}