{"id":3688,"date":"2017-09-25T10:11:22","date_gmt":"2017-09-25T08:11:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/?p=3688"},"modified":"2024-12-17T10:13:30","modified_gmt":"2024-12-17T08:13:30","slug":"cka-kane-te-perbashket-auloni-dhe-zejnepe-berisha","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/opinion\/cka-kane-te-perbashket-auloni-dhe-zejnepe-berisha\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00c7ka kan\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt Auloni dhe Zejnepe Berisha?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"news-up\">\n<h3><\/h3>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"news-down\">\n<div class=\"news-left\">\n<p>Media nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb mikja m\u00eb e mir\u00eb e gruas n\u00eb Kosov\u00eb. Rrall\u00ebher\u00eb shohim raportime t\u00eb arritjeve t\u00eb grave, aq m\u00eb pak artikuj q\u00eb adresojn\u00eb ndonj\u00eb problem me baz\u00eb gjinore. Tregimet p\u00ebr grat\u00eb, n\u00eb t\u00eb shumt\u00ebn e rasteve, z\u00ebn\u00eb hap\u00ebsir\u00eb n\u00eb rubrik\u00ebn roz\u00eb apo kronik\u00ebn e zez\u00eb. Mbase nj\u00ebra nga arsyet p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb reflektimi i realitetit patriarkal n\u00eb vend. Por, mar\u00ebdh\u00ebnia e medias me shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb komplekse sesa vet\u00ebm raportim realiteti. Mediat form\u00ebsojn\u00eb besimet e qytetar\u00ebve. Ato e kan\u00eb fuqin\u00eb ta fokusojn\u00eb interesimin publik n\u00eb tema apo subjekte t\u00eb caktuara. Dhe cfar\u00eb ndodh\u00eb me qasjen e medias ndaj grave? Dy shembuj nga java e kaluar na d\u00ebshmojn\u00eb q\u00eb p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb munges\u00ebs s\u00eb sensitivitetit ndaj perspektiv\u00ebs gjinore, kanalet informative mund t\u00eb deformojn\u00eb lajmet, t\u00eb ndikojn\u00eb publikun, dhe t\u00eb krijohet fushat\u00eb d\u00ebnimi ndaj subjekteve.\u00a0 Nj\u00eb nga shkaqet thelb\u00ebsore p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb shp\u00ebrfillja ndaj p\u00ebrdorimit t\u00eb termeve adekuate dhe p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsisht mungesa e raportimit t\u00eb drejt\u00eb. Sharlataniz\u00ebm i shkall\u00ebs m\u00eb t\u00eb lart\u00eb.<\/p>\n<p>Keqp\u00ebrdorim Seksual i t\u00eb Mitur\u00ebs. Titull artikulli i k\u00ebsaj jave. Nuk k\u00ebrkohen njohuri t\u00eb thella t\u00eb gjuh\u00ebs p\u00ebr ta kuptuar q\u00eb di\u00e7ka nuk shkon me k\u00ebt\u00eb titull. A n\u00ebnkupton kjo q\u00eb n\u00eb rastin e kund\u00ebrt \u2013 p\u00ebrdorimi seksual i t\u00eb mitur\u00ebs \u2013 do t\u2019ishte sipas rendit t\u00eb gj\u00ebrave? \u00c7far\u00eb n\u00eb fakt ka ndodhur \u00ebsht\u00eb sulm seksual ndaj nj\u00eb t\u00eb miture. Dhe k\u00ebto dy fjal\u00eb nuk d\u00ebftojn\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtin kuptim. P\u00ebrdorimi ka kuptimin e v\u00ebnies n\u00eb veprim t\u00eb nj\u00eb objekti, mjeti. Subjektet nuk p\u00ebrdoren &#8211; as nuk keqp\u00ebrdoren. Sidomos n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rast. P\u00ebrjashtim b\u00ebjn\u00eb rastet kur trajtohen si skllev\u00ebr, t\u00eb reduktuar n\u00eb trupa, objekte. Subjektet, nd\u00ebrkaq, trajtohen mir\u00eb apo keq. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rast, madje, nuk b\u00ebhet fjal\u00eb as p\u00ebr keqtrajtim, por p\u00ebr sulm. Sepse trajtimi i n\u00ebnshtrohet nj\u00eb niveli p\u00eblqimi, lejimi. Nd\u00ebrsa n\u00eb sulm nuk ka miratim. Ashtu si\u00e7, sipas t\u00eb gjitha gjasave ka ndodhur.<\/p>\n<p>Por pse \u00ebsht\u00eb kaq e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme gjuha? Sepse ajo pasqyron kultur\u00ebn. Pra bart informata p\u00ebr m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn se si nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebri e sheh bot\u00ebn. Nj\u00ebjt\u00eb si mediat si kanale komunikimi, mar\u00ebdh\u00ebnia e gjuh\u00ebs me shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e thjesht\u00eb. Ndikimi \u00ebsht\u00eb i dyansh\u00ebm. Gjuha ka forc\u00eb ta ndryshoj\u00eb apo p\u00ebrforcoj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn se si mendohen gj\u00ebrat. Gjuha dhe mendimet tona jan\u00eb pothuajse nj\u00eb. N\u00eb kok\u00ebn ton\u00eb ne mendojm\u00eb me gjuh\u00eb n\u00eb shumic\u00ebn e koh\u00ebs. Dhe gjuha jon\u00eb, ashtu si realiteti, \u00ebsht\u00eb patriarkale. Dhe duke l\u00ebn\u00eb tituj t\u00eb till\u00eb, ne nuk e sfidojm\u00eb patriarkalitetin. E mir\u00ebmbajm\u00eb at\u00eb. Mbase jeni m\u00ebrzitur nga p\u00ebrdorimi i k\u00ebsaj fjale, po aq sa jeni lodhur me p\u00ebrdorimin e fjal\u00ebs feminiz\u00ebm. Ndoshta kjo tregon p\u00ebr rezistenc\u00ebn ton\u00eb ndaj k\u00ebsaj gjuhe t\u00eb re q\u00eb sfidon normat tradicionale t\u00eb funksionimit t\u00eb shoq\u00ebris\u00eb ton\u00eb.<\/p>\n<p>T\u00eb kthehemi tek gjuha patriarkale dhe realiteti patriarkal. Sepse kjo mund t\u00eb na ndihmoj\u00eb t\u00eb kuptojm\u00eb problemin e nj\u00eb ngjarjeje t\u00eb ndjeshme q\u00eb ndodhi k\u00ebt\u00eb jav\u00eb e cila u prit me nj\u00eb reagim t\u00eb furish\u00ebm. Gjithandej n\u00eb media u tha se vrasja e nj\u00eb t\u00eb mituri u b\u00eb p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb nj\u00eb vajze. Dhe k\u00ebshtu gjuetia e shtrigave ndaj vajz\u00ebs, familjes s\u00eb saj etj. etj. filloi. Mediat nuk hezituan t\u00eb orientojn\u00eb gjykimet ndaj nj\u00eb vajze t\u00eb re, e cila ka q\u00eblluar t\u00eb jet\u00eb n\u00eb mes t\u00eb dy djemve adoleshent\u00eb. Ajo u b\u00eb qendra e kritik\u00ebs ndon\u00ebse k\u00ebmb\u00ebz\u00ebn nuk u tha q\u00eb e kishte ngrehur, as nuk u aludua q\u00eb ka nxitur vras\u00ebsin, apo bashk\u00ebpunuar me t\u00eb. Edhe n\u00ebse dorasi ka mund\u00eb ta b\u00ebj\u00eb nj\u00eb gj\u00eb t\u00eb till\u00eb nga dashuria q\u00eb ka ndjer\u00eb p\u00ebr vajz\u00ebn n\u00eb fjal\u00eb, k\u00ebt\u00eb nuk e ka b\u00ebr\u00eb p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb vajz\u00ebs per se. Dhe \u00e7far\u00eb dashurie se! Si n\u00eb koh\u00ebrat e Pushkinit. 1836.<\/p>\n<p>K\u00ebt\u00eb mund ta kuptojm\u00eb edhe nga nj\u00eb postim n\u00eb Instagram \u2013 i cili poashtu u publikua nga mediat &#8211; dorasi i thot\u00eb vajz\u00ebs \u2018s\u2019ka kerkush qi tmerr pi meje\u2026e di qi smunesh mu bo e tjetrit kur une t\u2019kom bo qikjo qi je\u201d. \u00c7ka na tregon gjuha t\u00eb cil\u00ebn e p\u00ebrdor\u00eb djali dhe \u00e7far\u00eb thot\u00eb shkenca p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb? Leksiku i djalit \u00ebsht\u00eb pasqyr\u00eb e arsyes s\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb t\u00eb vrasjes \u2013 dominanca. Jo \u00e7ika. Ai pretendon q\u00eb \u00e7ik\u00ebn e paska \u2018bo\u2019 dhe k\u00ebsisoji ka pushtet mbi ekzistenc\u00ebn e saj. \u00cbsht\u00eb m\u00ebse e dukshme prania e elementeve t\u00eb abuzimit e kontrollit dhe e gjith\u00eb ngjarja lidhet me at\u00eb se kujt i takon ajo. Subjektiviteti dhe liria e vendimeve p\u00ebr jet\u00ebn e saj, i jan\u00eb hequr. E si mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb ajo fajtore, kur sipas fjal\u00ebve t\u00eb vet dorasit ajo s\u2019ka t\u00eb drejt\u00eb t\u00eb vendos\u00eb p\u00ebr fatin e vet? Studime t\u00eb shumta konfirmojn\u00eb q\u00eb arsyeja kryesore kur djemt\u00eb shfaqin agresivitet \u2018p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00e7ike\u2019 \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb treguar dominanc\u00eb ndaj nj\u00ebri tjetrit. Dometh\u00ebn\u00eb s\u2019ka fare t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb me personin n\u00eb mes. [1]<\/p>\n<p>\u00c7far\u00eb ndodh\u00eb r\u00ebndom n\u00eb k\u00ebto raste \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb grat\u00eb jan\u00eb viktimat e nj\u00eb mentaliteti t\u00eb k\u00ebtill\u00eb i cili e zhvesh\u00eb at\u00eb nga ego, subjektiviteti, roli i saj p\u00ebrtej riprodhimit. Kujtoni Diana Kastratin. Zejnepe Bytyqi-Berish\u00ebn. Auloni u vra p\u00ebr arsye t\u00eb po t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtit mentalitet i cili vrau Dian\u00ebn e Zejnepen.<\/p>\n<p>Nuk mund ta anashkalojm\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsin\u00eb q\u00eb ka gjuha n\u00eb shoq\u00ebri. Mediat kan\u00eb p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi t\u00eb raportojn\u00eb kujdessh\u00ebm sidomos n\u00eb rastet e ndjeshme si ky i Aulonit. Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb i shk\u00ebputur fati i Zejnepes me portretizimin q\u00eb ia b\u00ebri media \u00e7ik\u00ebs s\u00eb p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb n\u00eb rastin e Aulonit. E gjitha \u00ebsht\u00eb e lidhur me perceptimin p\u00ebr \u00e7ikat dhe grat\u00eb n\u00eb Kosov\u00eb si objekt i k\u00ebmbyesh\u00ebm mes burrash. Dhe kur nji djal\u00eb beson se ka t\u00eb drejt\u00eb n\u00eb kontrollimin e jet\u00ebs s\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00e7ike, pashmangsh\u00ebm do t\u00eb b\u00ebhet abuziv dhe i dhunsh\u00ebm. M\u00eb shpesh ndaj \u00e7ikave (nj\u00eb n\u00eb tri gra \u2013 gjat\u00eb jet\u00ebs s\u00eb tyre \u2013 jan\u00eb viktima t\u00eb dhun\u00ebs), e me raste edhe ndaj djemve t\u00eb tjer\u00eb. P\u00ebr t\u00eb treguar dominanc\u00eb.<\/p>\n<p>_________________<\/p>\n<p>[1] Ainsworth, Sarah E., and Jon K. Maner. Sex begets violence: Mating motives, social dominance, and physical aggression in men.\u00a0Journal of Personality and Social Psychology\u00a0103.5 (2012): 819-29. Print.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"news-right\">\n<div class=\"post\">\n<p class=\"author\">\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Media nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb mikja m\u00eb e mir\u00eb e gruas n\u00eb Kosov\u00eb. Rrall\u00ebher\u00eb shohim raportime t\u00eb arritjeve t\u00eb grave, aq m\u00eb pak artikuj q\u00eb adresojn\u00eb ndonj\u00eb problem me baz\u00eb gjinore. Tregimet p\u00ebr grat\u00eb, n\u00eb t\u00eb shumt\u00ebn e rasteve, z\u00ebn\u00eb hap\u00ebsir\u00eb n\u00eb rubrik\u00ebn roz\u00eb apo kronik\u00ebn e zez\u00eb. Mbase nj\u00ebra nga arsyet p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb reflektimi i [&hellip;]<\/p>","protected":false},"author":256,"featured_media":11082,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[1221,976],"ppma_author":[1354],"class_list":["post-3688","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-opinion","tag-grate","tag-media"],"authors":[{"term_id":1354,"user_id":256,"is_guest":0,"slug":"donjeta-demolli","display_name":"Donjeta Demolli","avatar_url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/2195e1107d1db34b6d26ff22e1de6aef7eadd2169b71c6ecd6e5a86d1c826a4b?s=96&d=mm&r=g","user_url":"","last_name":"Demolli","first_name":"Donjeta","description":""}],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3688","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/256"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3688"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3688\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":11213,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3688\/revisions\/11213"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/11082"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3688"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3688"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3688"},{"taxonomy":"author","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/ppma_author?post=3688"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}