{"id":3857,"date":"2018-12-27T16:04:49","date_gmt":"2018-12-27T14:04:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/?p=3857"},"modified":"2025-01-10T16:08:00","modified_gmt":"2025-01-10T14:08:00","slug":"nje-here-viktima-te-dhunes-seksuale-tash-viktima-te-padrejtesise-e-stigmatizimit","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/opinion\/nje-here-viktima-te-dhunes-seksuale-tash-viktima-te-padrejtesise-e-stigmatizimit\/","title":{"rendered":"Nj\u00eb her\u00eb viktima t\u00eb dhun\u00ebs seksuale, tash viktima t\u00eb padrejt\u00ebsis\u00eb e stigmatizimit"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Lufta e fundit n\u00eb Kosov\u00eb p\u00ebrfundoi me mij\u00ebra t\u00eb vrar\u00eb e t\u00eb zhdukur, pasoja t\u00eb cilat lan\u00eb gjurm\u00eb t\u00eb pashlyera n\u00eb kujtes\u00ebn e shoq\u00ebris\u00eb kosovare. E nj\u00eb nga plag\u00ebt m\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnda, q\u00eb vazhdon t\u00eb jet\u00eb e fresk\u00ebt edhe sot, \u00ebsht\u00eb dhunimi seksual i mij\u00ebra grave e vajzave t\u00eb reja, por edhe burrave. Konsiderohet se rreth 20 mij\u00eb gra e vajza pat\u00ebn fatin tragjik t\u00eb jen\u00eb viktima t\u00eb dhun\u00ebs seksuale gjat\u00eb luft\u00ebs s\u00eb fundit n\u00eb Kosov\u00eb.<\/p>\n

E tash, kur kan\u00eb kaluar 20 vite nga ajo koh\u00eb, k\u00ebto gra po vazhdojn\u00eb t\u00eb \u201cdhunohen\u201d n\u00eb m\u00ebnyra t\u00eb ndryshme. Po, po vazhdojn\u00eb t\u00eb dhunohen psiqikisht nga mend\u00ebsia e ndryshkur n\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn jeton kjo shoq\u00ebri, shoq\u00ebri q\u00eb faj\u00ebson viktimat, q\u00eb n\u00eb vend t\u00eb p\u00ebrkrahjes morale, ua shum\u00ebfishon dhimbjen duke i stigmatizuar p\u00ebr di\u00e7ka q\u00eb ndodhi kund\u00ebr d\u00ebshir\u00ebs e vullentit t\u00eb tyre. Sepse nderi i shqiptar\u00ebve p\u00ebrkufizohet te nj\u00eb cip\u00eb e holl\u00eb!<\/p>\n

Dinjiteti i k\u00ebtyre 20 mij\u00eb grave u dhunua edhe kur disa deputet\u00eb t\u00eb Kosov\u00ebs propozuan ekzaminim mjek\u00ebsor p\u00ebr t\u2019ia njohur statusin e viktim\u00ebs s\u00eb dhun\u00ebs seksuale, p\u00ebr nj\u00eb dhunim t\u00eb ndodhur para 20 viteve! Sepse, sipas tyre, ky num\u00ebr mund t\u00eb rritet p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb p\u00ebrfitimit financiar. Ta l\u00ebm\u00eb anash an\u00ebn jologjike t\u00eb k\u00ebtij propozimi, a mendoni se p\u00ebr nj\u00eb pension simbolik do t\u00eb dilnin gra e t\u00eb paraqiteshin si viktima t\u00eb dhun\u00ebs seksuale? N\u00eb nj\u00eb vend ku e dhunuara turp\u00ebrohet e dhunuesi lirohet? Kush do ta shiste dinjitetin p\u00ebr nj\u00eb pension simbolik? Grat\u00eb tona t\u00eb cilat jan\u00eb rritur me mendimin se nderi i tyre ndodhet mes k\u00ebmb\u00ebve? Jo, sigurisht q\u00eb jo. Un\u00eb nuk e besoj. Por ata q\u00eb vet\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka p\u00ebr para, e besojn\u00eb, sepse nuk shohin p\u00ebrtej hund\u00ebs s\u00eb tyre.<\/p>\n

Nejse! U formua edhe komisioni p\u00ebr njohjen e viktimave t\u00eb dhun\u00ebs seksuale, e prej 20 mij\u00eb grave sa konsiderohet se jan\u00eb viktima, as 1000 prej tyre nuk kan\u00eb aplikuar p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb status. Ato po heshtin, sepse z\u00ebri i tyre po vazhdon t\u00eb shtypet e dhunohet n\u00eb shum\u00eb m\u00ebnyra.<\/p>\n

Integriteti i tyre po d\u00ebmtohet edhe n\u00eb institucionet ku pretendohet t\u00eb jen\u00eb edukuese e vet\u00ebdij\u00ebsuese. Nj\u00eb \u201cprofesor\u201d, n\u00eb librin e tij shkruan se \u2018viktimat e marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve seksuale me dhun\u00eb zakonisht jan\u00eb femrat q\u00eb g\u00ebnjehen leht\u00eb, t\u00eb pakujdesshme, mendjelehta dhe t\u00eb p\u00ebrdala\u2019. Mjafton t\u2019i lexosh kat\u00ebr fjalit\u00eb e para t\u00eb k\u00ebtij citimi p\u00ebr ta par\u00eb formulimin jo logjik t\u00eb k\u00ebtij definimi. Prandaj, edhe fjal\u00ebt\u00a0e nj\u00eb personi t\u00eb till\u00eb nuk do duhej t\u00eb merreshin seriozisht, por fatkeq\u00ebsisht, me at\u00eb lib\u00ebr jan\u00eb arsimuar gjenerata, t\u00eb cil\u00ebve u \u00ebsht\u00eb ngulitur n\u00eb kok\u00eb se viktima \u00ebsht\u00eb fajtore. Kjo l\u00ebndon dhe godit\u00eb viktitmat e dhunes seksuale, t\u00eb cilat i mundon edhe ndjenja e nj\u00eb faji q\u00eb kurr\u00eb se pat\u00ebn.<\/p>\n

Nejse! I shpall\u00ebn heroina e nd\u00ebrtuan edhe lapidar p\u00ebr k\u00ebto gra, por n\u00eb realitet i trajtojn\u00eb krejt ndryshe. I ofrojn\u00eb p\u00ebrkrahje n\u00eb rrjetet sociale, e kur ato flasin, prap\u00eb gjejn\u00eb hap\u00ebsira p\u00ebr t\u2019i kritikuar.<\/p>\n

Vasfije Krasniqi Goodman s\u00eb fundmi foli publiksht mes lot\u00ebsh p\u00ebr dhun\u00ebn seksuale q\u00eb p\u00ebrjetoi gjat\u00eb luft\u00ebs n\u00eb Kosov\u00eb. Por prap\u00eb, ajo u kritikua pse pranoi nj\u00eb dekorat\u00eb nga Presidenti i vendit, president q\u00eb mbase ajo nuk e njeh mir\u00eb, meq\u00eb u largua para shum\u00eb vitesh nga Kosova. Pra, edhe kur heshtja thyhet, z\u00ebri i tyre vazhdon t\u00eb \u201cdhunohet\u201d. Sepse ky shtet nuk i do grat\u00eb! Vasfija e mij\u00ebra gra t\u00eb tjera u \u201cdhunuan\u201d kur deputet\u00ebt q\u00eb k\u00ebrkuan ekzaminimin e tyre, sot pozuan krah tyre, kinse po i p\u00ebrkrahin. Ironi!<\/p>\n

Por ky shtet, ky popull, k\u00ebta pushtetar\u00eb nuk e din\u00eb q\u00eb k\u00ebto gra jan\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb forta, pavar\u00ebsisht dhun\u00ebs q\u00eb p\u00ebrjetuan. Ato nuk kan\u00eb nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr dekorata e pensione qesharake, sepse, si\u00e7 tha Vasfija, duan drejt\u00ebsi e mbrojtje ligjore. Atyre iu duhet p\u00ebrkrahje morale. N\u00ebse nuk mund t\u2019ua ofroni k\u00ebto, l\u00ebrini t\u00eb qeta, e paragjykimet mbajeni p\u00ebr vete.<\/p>\n

Kjo liri atyre u kushtoi shum\u00eb, andaj mos i izoloni me paragjykimet e stigmatizimet tuaja. B\u00ebhuni z\u00ebri i tyre e ndihuni krenar\u00eb m\u00eb to, q\u00eb pavar\u00ebsisht stigmave, po guxojn\u00eb ta shpalosin t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn e dhimbshme.<\/p>\n

Por, kujt po i flas n\u00eb fakt? Harrova q\u00eb ky shtet ndihet krenar me grat\u00eb vet\u00ebm kur marrin \u00e7mime nd\u00ebrkomb\u00ebtare! Ky (pu)shtet q\u00eb faj\u00ebson viktim\u00ebn ani pse nuk e mbron.<\/p>\n

Por z\u00ebrat si Vasfija nuk do t\u00eb heshtin. Sepse njer\u00ebzit shuhen, por jo edhe e v\u00ebrteta. Publikisht ose n\u00eb kushte anonimiteti, ato do t\u00eb vazhdojn\u00eb t\u00eb flasin, sepse pavar\u00ebsisht stigamitizimit q\u00eb u b\u00ebn ky shtet, ato do t\u00eb sakrifikojn\u00eb p\u00ebr hir t\u00eb s\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebs. Ato do t\u00eb vazhdojn\u00eb t\u00eb flasin… deri n\u00eb drejt\u00ebsi!<\/p>\n

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Ky shkrim \u00ebsht\u00eb fitues i gar\u00ebs p\u00ebr ese me tem\u00eb\u00a0“\u00c7\u00ebshtja e t\u00eb mbijetuar\u00ebve t\u00eb dhun\u00ebs seksuale gjat\u00eb luft\u00ebs n\u00eb Kosov\u00eb”<\/em>\u00a0mb\u00ebshtetur nga Fondacioni Jahjaga.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Lufta e fundit n\u00eb Kosov\u00eb p\u00ebrfundoi me mij\u00ebra t\u00eb vrar\u00eb e t\u00eb zhdukur, pasoja t\u00eb cilat lan\u00eb gjurm\u00eb t\u00eb pashlyera n\u00eb kujtes\u00ebn e shoq\u00ebris\u00eb kosovare. E nj\u00eb nga plag\u00ebt m\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnda, q\u00eb vazhdon t\u00eb jet\u00eb e fresk\u00ebt edhe sot, \u00ebsht\u00eb dhunimi seksual i mij\u00ebra grave e vajzave t\u00eb reja, por edhe burrave. Konsiderohet se […]<\/p>","protected":false},"author":261,"featured_media":11934,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[1938,2303],"ppma_author":[2302],"class_list":["post-3857","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-opinion","tag-stigmatizimi","tag-viktimat-e-dhunes-seksuale"],"authors":[{"term_id":2302,"user_id":261,"is_guest":0,"slug":"drenusha-morina","display_name":"Drenusha Morina","avatar_url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/c45adc7f18ef5292b4426fed0928e14109c4938b6d2382850c9905fdc4c055f3?s=96&d=mm&r=g","user_url":"","last_name":"Morina","first_name":"Drenusha","description":""}],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3857","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/261"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3857"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3857\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":11963,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3857\/revisions\/11963"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/11934"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3857"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3857"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3857"},{"taxonomy":"author","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/ppma_author?post=3857"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}