{"id":3959,"date":"2019-08-01T09:58:13","date_gmt":"2019-08-01T07:58:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/?p=3959"},"modified":"2024-10-15T10:26:11","modified_gmt":"2024-10-15T08:26:11","slug":"so-boll-vec-me-kuptu-qe-sje-mire","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/opinion\/so-boll-vec-me-kuptu-qe-sje-mire\/","title":{"rendered":"S’o boll ve\u00e7 me kuptu q\u00eb s’je mir\u00eb"},"content":{"rendered":"
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S’o boll ve\u00e7 me kuptu q\u00eb s’je mir\u00eb<\/h3>\n<\/div>\n
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Kur flasim p\u00ebr zgjidhjen e problemeve, hapi i par\u00eb zakonisht \u00ebsht\u00eb identifikimi (qysh me iu qas problemit pa e dit\u2019 se \u00e7ka \u00ebsht\u00eb?). N\u00eb sh\u00ebndet mendor \u00ebsht\u00eb i nj\u00ebjti princip,\u00a0pa e dit\u00eb se je keq nuk mundesh m\u2019u bo mir\u00eb.<\/em>\u00a0Fatkeq\u00ebsisht, fakt \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb ka shum\u00eb njer\u00ebz sot q\u00eb i kan\u00eb p\u00ebrvet\u00ebsuar ndjenjat negative n\u00eb asi niveli q\u00eb as nuk jan\u00eb t\u00eb vet\u00ebdijsh\u00ebm se nuk jan\u00eb t\u00eb lumtur \u2013 pra, nuk jan\u00eb n\u00eb gjendje as ta identifikojn\u00eb problemin.<\/p>\n

Nj\u00ebkoh\u00ebsisht gjenden persona q\u00eb jan\u00eb n\u00eb dijeni t\u00eb plot\u00eb t\u00eb vuajtjes s\u00eb tyre, por ngecin aty ku jan\u00eb.<\/p>\n

Shkaku i natyr\u00ebs s\u00eb shoq\u00ebrive q\u00eb i kemi krijuar \u00ebsht\u00eb e zakonshme q\u00eb t\u00eb ket\u00eb refuzim t\u00eb gjendjes aktuale t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetit mendor. \u00c7ka \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb atipike \u00ebsht\u00eb kuptimi i situat\u00ebs si problem i cili kalohet, po q\u00eb nj\u00ebkoh\u00ebsisht pranohet si gjendje permanente. Del, p\u00ebrkrah diskutime t\u00eb hapura p\u00ebr sh\u00ebndet mendor, i rekomandon t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve mjete dhe metoda p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsuar gjendjen e tyre, kthehet n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi dhe shtrihet n\u00eb vuajtjen personale.<\/p>\n

Ndoshta nuk ish dasht\u00eb me qen\u00eb kaq e \u00e7uditshme, t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn p\u00ebr shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb kosovare. Te na vuajtja dhe letargjia jan\u00eb tipare t\u00eb cilat intimisht i njohim. Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb rast\u00ebsi q\u00eb nj\u00ebra prej p\u00ebrgjigjeve m\u00eb t\u00eb shpeshta q\u00eb i d\u00ebgjoj p\u00ebr pytjen \u201cQysh je?\u201d \u00ebsht\u00eb \u201cGjall\u00eb.. gjall\u00eb..\u201d. Situata n\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn gjendemi integrohet n\u00eb realitetin ton\u00eb personal dhe pasivisht pranohet q\u00eb t\u00eb jetojm\u00eb me pik\u00ebllim, pra \u201ckeq jom, po s\u2019kom \u00e7ka boj!\u201d<\/p>\n

Gjeneratat e reja kemi m\u00eb shum\u00eb informata mbi gjendjen emocionale t\u00eb njeriut. N\u00eb sken\u00ebn nd\u00ebrkomb\u00ebtare temat p\u00ebr sh\u00ebndet mendor kurr\u00eb nuk kan\u00eb qen\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrhapura, shembulli m\u00eb i mir\u00eb q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb iniciativa e Britanis\u00eb s\u00eb Madhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb pasur\u00a0diskutime t\u00eb hapura me sportist\u00eb dhe Prince William p\u00ebr sh\u00ebndet mendor n\u00eb BBC.<\/a>\u00a0N\u00eb fund t\u00eb fundit, gati \u00e7do njeri mund t\u00eb hyj\u00eb online dhe t\u00eb lexoj\u00eb p\u00ebr depresionin, ankthin, PTSD(Stresi Post-traumatik), e shum\u00eb tema tjera t\u00eb cil\u00ebt i prekin. Mendimi i natyrsh\u00ebm q\u00eb rrjedh\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb \u201cmantra\u201d e lartp\u00ebrmendur t\u00eb refuzohet, pasi q\u00eb jemi m\u00eb t\u00eb pajisur me info. N\u00eb realitet, ajo pranohet me nj\u00eb korrigjim: \u201ckeq jom, kom \u00e7ka boj, ama nuk muj.\u201d<\/p>\n

Ky paradoks \u00ebsht\u00eb thelbi p\u00ebr t\u00eb kuptuar natyr\u00ebn e s\u00ebmundjes mendore \u2013 frika joracionale q\u00eb n\u00ebse k\u00ebrkon ndihm\u00eb ose provon metoda p\u00ebr p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsimin e gjendjes ato do t\u00eb d\u00ebshtojn\u00eb, dhe si pasoj\u00eb jeta jote ka me p\u00ebrjetu pasoja negative. Identifikimi i problemit b\u00ebhet p\u00eblhur\u00eb e holl\u00eb mbrojt\u00ebse e k\u00ebtyre frikave: \u201cDeri sa e di q\u00eb jom keq, muj me e menaxhu.\u201d, dhe p\u00ebrfundimisht rezultati pason t\u00eb jet\u00eb i nj\u00ebjt\u00eb. Integrohet vuajtja si gjendje permanente e jetes\u00ebs edhe pse mund\u00ebsia p\u00ebr ndryshim \u00ebsht\u00eb af\u00ebr.<\/p>\n

Njohja e vet\u00ebdijshme e problemeve t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetit mendor vet\u00ebm ka hy n\u00eb diskursin publik. Disa prej serialeve dhe filmave t\u00eb cilat ndiqen m\u00eb s\u00eb shumti, shpesh e diskutojn\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtjen e veturrejtjes, dhe ngecjen e avancimit t\u00eb karakterit individual n\u00eb ballafaqim me depresionin (Rick and Morty, BoJack Horseman, Lucifer, etj). N\u00eb rrjete sociale gjendet n\u00eb form\u00eb t\u00eb foreve dhe\u00a0\u201cmemes\u201d<\/em>, di\u00e7ka q\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb implicite e shohim veten n\u00eb t\u00eb. Vet\u00eb kur i shoh m\u00eb vjen me qesh\u00eb se po bashk\u00ebndjej\u00eb me at\u00eb q\u00eb e thot\u00eb autori.\u00a0\u00c7ka tjet\u00ebr ka met\u00eb me bo p\u00ebrpos me qesh\u00eb me k\u00ebto probleme, e sa mir\u00eb q\u00eb dikush po na afirmon realitetin?<\/em><\/p>\n

Po problemi nuk largohet. Sado q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb i mir\u00eb identifikimi i problemit, n\u00ebse ai problem pranohet si di\u00e7ka q\u00eb nuk kemi fuqi ose d\u00ebshir\u00eb ta nd\u00ebrrojm\u00eb, sh\u00ebndeti yn\u00eb mendor vet\u00ebm do t\u00eb p\u00ebrkeq\u00ebsohet. Kuptimi i k\u00ebtill\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb hapi i fundit i rrethit t\u00eb depresionit, para s\u00eb t\u00eb filloj p\u00ebrs\u00ebritja. Individi nuk jeton n\u00eb iluzionin q\u00eb problemi do t\u00eb largohet, ose q\u00eb do t\u00eb jet\u00eb konstant n\u00eb nivelin q\u00eb gjendet, n\u00eb fakt e kupton q\u00eb nj\u00eb problem i patrajtuar vet\u00ebm mund t\u00eb keq\u00ebsohet \u2013 po kjo aq m\u00eb tep\u00ebr e \u00e7on n\u00eb depresion dhe e kthen n\u00eb mendimin e par\u00eb t\u00eb menaxhimit t\u00eb situat\u00ebs.<\/p>\n

Nuk ka rrug\u00eb tjet\u00ebr jasht\u00eb rrethit p\u00ebrpos me dal\u00eb krejt prej saj – jemi mjaft t\u00eb vet\u00ebdijsh\u00ebm q\u00eb ta pranojm\u00eb si t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb. \u00c7ka ka mbet\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb me e bo hapin e dyt\u00eb, k\u00ebrkimin e ndihm\u00ebs. \u00cbsht\u00eb rrug\u00eb e gjat\u00eb, e mbushun me frustrime, g\u00ebrmim t\u00eb thell\u00eb n\u00eb vetveten dhe frik\u00eb se ku ke me dal\u00eb,\u00a0po o\u2019 rrug\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb e dijm\u00eb se duhet me u bo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

—-<\/strong><\/p>\n

Klinika UNI\u00a0<\/a>– Qend\u00ebr p\u00ebr k\u00ebshillim, testim dhe vler\u00ebsim psikologjik<\/p>\n

Nuk je vet\u00a0<\/a>– K\u00ebshillim online p\u00ebr t\u00eb rinj\u00ebt<\/p>\n

CEL<\/a>\u00a0– K\u00ebshillime falas p\u00ebr komunitetin LGBT<\/p>\n

I fight depression\u00a0–<\/a>\u00a0Informata rreth Depresionit<\/p>\n

Qendra Psiko-Sociale per Trauma Terapi, Diakonie Kosova\u00a0<\/a>– Sh\u00ebrbime falas p\u00ebr trauma terapi<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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S’o boll ve\u00e7 me kuptu q\u00eb s’je mir\u00eb Kur flasim p\u00ebr zgjidhjen e problemeve, hapi i par\u00eb zakonisht \u00ebsht\u00eb identifikimi (qysh me iu qas problemit pa e dit\u2019 se \u00e7ka \u00ebsht\u00eb?). N\u00eb sh\u00ebndet mendor \u00ebsht\u00eb i nj\u00ebjti princip,\u00a0pa e dit\u00eb se je keq nuk mundesh m\u2019u bo mir\u00eb.\u00a0Fatkeq\u00ebsisht, fakt \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb ka shum\u00eb njer\u00ebz sot […]<\/p>","protected":false},"author":53,"featured_media":7966,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[751],"ppma_author":[63],"class_list":["post-3959","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-opinion","tag-mental-health"],"authors":[{"term_id":63,"user_id":53,"is_guest":0,"slug":"bind-skeja","display_name":"Bind Skeja","avatar_url":{"url":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/download-4-1.jpg","url2x":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/download-4-1.jpg"},"user_url":"","last_name":"Skeja","first_name":"Bind","description":"Bind Skeja \u00ebsht\u00eb themelues i OJQ-s \u201cQendra p\u00ebr Informim dhe P\u00ebrmir\u00ebsim Social\u201d. Studimet i ka p\u00ebrfunduar n\u00eb Psikologji Eksperimentale n\u00eb Universitetin e Yorkut. Sot ai \u00ebsht\u00eb i angazhuar si aktivist n\u00eb fush\u00ebn e sh\u00ebndetit mendor."}],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3959","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/53"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3959"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3959\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8324,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3959\/revisions\/8324"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/7966"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3959"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3959"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3959"},{"taxonomy":"author","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/ppma_author?post=3959"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}