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N\u00eb shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb ton\u00eb ka koh\u00eb q\u00eb nuk komunikojm\u00eb normal apo th\u00ebn\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb, nuk e mbajm\u00eb mend kur kemi komunikuar normal. Q\u00eb nga marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet n\u00eb familje dhe deri n\u00eb institucionet m\u00eb t\u00eb larta politike, arsimore dhe akademike nuk mund ta hasim nj\u00eb normalitet t\u00eb komunikimit t\u00eb nd\u00ebrsjell\u00eb. Po ta shtojm\u00eb vet\u00ebm pak v\u00ebmendje rreth asaj se si komunikojm\u00eb nd\u00ebr vete do t\u00eb hasim n\u00eb nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie komunikimi shum\u00eb t\u00eb zorshme, shum\u00eb t\u00eb keqe. Sigurisht se nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie e till\u00eb mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb lloj-lloj shpjegimesh, mir\u00ebpo, ajo \u00e7far\u00eb k\u00ebrkojm\u00eb t\u00eb marrim vesh n\u00eb lidhje me k\u00ebt\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb ta zb\u00ebrthejm\u00eb (s\u00eb paku t\u00eb mundohemi), se cilat jan\u00eb arsyet e k\u00ebtij fenomeni. Erich Fromm-i tek libri Gjuha e harruar thot\u00eb se: \u201cGjuha, dometh\u00ebn\u00eb, elementi m\u00eb elementar i kultur\u00ebs, \u00ebsht\u00eb kushti fillestar i \u00e7do realizimi t\u00eb njeriut\u201d. Mir\u00ebpo, ky realizim i njeriut jo \u00e7doher\u00eb ka qen\u00eb n\u00eb p\u00ebrputhje apo m\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb themi n\u00eb raport me nevojat dhe k\u00ebrkesat shoq\u00ebrore. Gjuha, p\u00ebrve\u00e7 se e njohim si mjet komunikimi, shpeshher\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb edhe mjet shum\u00eb i fuqish\u00ebm moskomunikimi. \u00cbsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb kur thot\u00eb Fromm-i se aft\u00ebsia q\u00eb kemi p\u00ebr t\u00eb folur na b\u00ebn njer\u00ebz, por \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb po ashtu se gjuha jo domosdoshm\u00ebrisht t\u00eb b\u00ebn njer\u00ebzor. Prandaj, si mjet komunikimi, gjuha shum\u00eb leht\u00eb mund t\u00eb shnd\u00ebrrohet n\u00eb nj\u00eb mjet p\u00ebr asgj\u00ebsimin e tjetrit. Madje Sokrati pohon se: \u201cKeqp\u00ebrdorimi i gjuh\u00ebs shkakton t\u00eb keqen n\u00eb shpirt”.<\/p>\n

Mendoj se ne si shoq\u00ebri kemi komunikim t\u00eb zorsh\u00ebm, sepse kishim nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebri t\u00eb zorshme. Aktualiteti i komunikimit ton\u00eb e shpreh m\u00eb s\u00eb miri t\u00eb kaluar\u00ebn ton\u00eb. E tashmja e shoq\u00ebris\u00eb son\u00eb n\u00eb fakt \u00ebsht\u00eb zgjatim i t\u00eb kaluar\u00ebs son\u00eb. Sot k\u00ebrkojm\u00eb dik\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb na hap\u00eb rrug\u00eb, sepse dje nuk ishim ne ata q\u00eb hap\u00ebronim vet\u00eb, por prij\u00ebsi yn\u00eb q\u00eb hap\u00ebronte p\u00ebr ne. P\u00ebr ta pasur dik\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb na udh\u00ebheq\u00eb, p\u00ebr ne nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00eb, por m\u00eb shum\u00eb se nevoj\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb frik\u00eb. P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb Freud-i do t\u00eb thoshte se kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb rip\u00ebrt\u00ebrirje e p\u00ebrvoj\u00ebs jet\u00ebsore f\u00ebminore. \u201cNjeriu u b\u00ebn ball\u00eb forcave k\u00ebrc\u00ebnuese p\u00ebr t\u00eb, po n\u00eb at\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb kur ai, duke qen\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb, u m\u00ebsua q\u00eb t\u2019i b\u00ebj\u00eb ball\u00eb pozit\u00ebs s\u00eb tij t\u00eb pambrojtur, duke u mb\u00ebshtetur tek babai, duke u mahnitur prej tij dhe duke e pasur frik\u00eb at\u00eb\u201d shprehet Fromm-i. Kjo
\nfrik\u00eb me baz\u00eb neurotike na b\u00ebn uniform edhe n\u00eb t\u00eb menduar. \u00c7do situate t\u00eb re i p\u00ebrgjigjemi nga strofulli i vjet\u00ebr. Kjo prodhon zvet\u00ebnim n\u00eb form\u00ebsimin e personalitetit dhe kalbje t\u00eb mendimit. Shoq\u00ebria e r\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb hendek t\u00eb till\u00eb udh\u00ebhiqet nga krenaria e tepruar, e jon nga vullneti p\u00ebr kreativitet. Nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebri e till\u00eb e ka frik\u00eb t\u00eb ardhmen, sepse konsideron se e reja si e m\u00ebvet\u00ebsishme \u00ebsht\u00eb rreziku i saj.<\/p>\n

P\u00ebr t\u00eb kap\u00ebrcyer nj\u00eb hendek t\u00eb till\u00eb p\u00ebrve\u00e7 q\u00eb duhet kuraj\u00eb, duhet edhe guxim… pra duhet ta mposhtim frik\u00ebn. Para se t\u2019i drejtohemi tjetrit duhet t\u00eb flasim me veten. N\u00ebse d\u00ebshirojm\u00eb t\u00eb jemi t\u00eb qart\u00eb, duhet t\u00eb jemi edhe t\u00eb sinqert\u00eb, sepse si\u00e7 thot\u00eb George Orwell-i: \u201cArmiku m\u00eb i madh i nj\u00eb gjuh\u00eb t\u00eb qart\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb mungesa e sinqeritetit\u201d. Qart\u00ebsimi i sinqert\u00eb me veten, i hap rrug\u00eb komunikimit me tjetrin. K\u00ebtu ndoshta nuk do t\u00eb ishte fare jasht\u00eb kontekstit ta nd\u00ebrmendin mendimtarin e shquar J\u00fcrgen Habermas, i cili pik\u00ebrisht n\u00ebp\u00ebrmes ides\u00eb s\u00eb tij t\u00eb veprimtarimit komunikativ shpreh alternativ\u00ebn e tij, p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjetur nj\u00eb formul\u00eb racionaliste n\u00eb organizimin shoq\u00ebror, respektivisht pika mbi t\u00eb cil\u00ebn nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebri racionale duhet t\u00eb nd\u00ebrtohet. Pra, Habermas-i insiston q\u00eb n\u00eb themelin e pareduktuesh\u00ebm racional t\u00eb veprimtaris\u00eb komunikative si nj\u00eb nga format m\u00eb t\u00eb q\u00ebndrueshme t\u00eb nj\u00eb komunikimi me themel t\u00eb sh\u00ebndosh\u00eb. Pra, natyra jon\u00eb hermetike mund t\u00eb zhb\u00ebhet nga format gjuh\u00ebsore n\u00ebp\u00ebrmes hermeneutik\u00ebs filozofike e cila \u00ebsht\u00eb kritike, e q\u00eb gjithashtu \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb zhbirim n\u00eb strukturat e komunikimit t\u00eb gjuh\u00ebs s\u00eb folur.<\/p>\n

\u00c7\u2019\u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrteta komunikimi n\u00eb shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb ton\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb nevoj\u00eb, e q\u00eb n\u00eb fakt do t\u00eb duhej t\u00eb ishte nj\u00eb gjest i p\u00ebrdit\u00ebsuar n\u00eb avancimin e jet\u00ebs son\u00eb. Prandaj, nj\u00eb deficit i till\u00eb komunikimi vet\u00ebm sa e rrit\u00eb hap\u00ebsir\u00ebn p\u00ebr keqkuptime mes nesh. Andaj, q\u00eb t\u2019mos ket\u00eb keqkuptime, \u00ebsht\u00eb me r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi t\u00eb gjejm\u00eb gjuh\u00ebn e p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt dhe t\u00eb komunikojm\u00eb. Marcel Proust-i thot\u00eb se: \u201cNj\u00eb gjuh\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn nuk e dim\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb kala e mbyllur\u201d, po ta p\u00ebrkthejm\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb n\u00eb kontekstin ton\u00eb, i bie se \u2018nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebri q\u00eb nuk komunikon \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb prag t\u00eb konfliktit\u2019.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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N\u00eb shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb ton\u00eb ka koh\u00eb q\u00eb nuk komunikojm\u00eb normal apo th\u00ebn\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb, nuk e mbajm\u00eb mend kur kemi komunikuar normal. Q\u00eb nga marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet n\u00eb familje dhe deri n\u00eb institucionet m\u00eb t\u00eb larta politike, arsimore dhe akademike nuk mund ta hasim nj\u00eb normalitet t\u00eb komunikimit t\u00eb nd\u00ebrsjell\u00eb. Po ta shtojm\u00eb vet\u00ebm pak v\u00ebmendje rreth asaj […]<\/p>","protected":false},"author":266,"featured_media":7966,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[1267],"ppma_author":[733],"class_list":["post-5081","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-opinion","tag-comuni"],"authors":[{"term_id":733,"user_id":266,"is_guest":0,"slug":"dritan-dragusha","display_name":"Dritan Dragusha","avatar_url":{"url":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/10\/dritan.webp","url2x":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/10\/dritan.webp"},"user_url":"","last_name":"Dragusha","first_name":"Dritan","description":"Dritan Dragusha \u00ebsht\u00eb i diplomuar n\u00eb filozofi, n\u00eb Universitetin e Prishtin\u00ebs. Dritani \u00ebsht\u00eb i fokusuar n\u00eb teori t\u00eb kultur\u00ebs dhe gjithashtu n\u00eb let\u00ebrsi, kinema dhe muzik\u00eb. Po ashtu, merret edhe me gazetari. \u00cbsht\u00eb kolumnist i rregullt n\u00eb platform\u00ebn online \"sbunker.net\". Ka qen\u00eb edhe m\u00ebsimdh\u00ebn\u00ebs i filozofis\u00eb dhe etik\u00ebs n\u00eb \"The British School Kosova\". Bashkautor n\u00eb projektin kulturor televiziv \"Filozofema\", n\u00eb Radio Televizionin e Kosov\u00ebs. Aktualisht Dritani \u00ebsht\u00eb autor dhe moderator i emisionit \"Prizma\", n\u00eb televizionin T7."}],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5081","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/266"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5081"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5081\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8217,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5081\/revisions\/8217"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/7966"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5081"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5081"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5081"},{"taxonomy":"author","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/ppma_author?post=5081"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}