{"id":3301,"date":"2016-10-21T14:28:59","date_gmt":"2016-10-21T12:28:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/?p=3301"},"modified":"2025-01-09T10:50:33","modified_gmt":"2025-01-09T08:50:33","slug":"si-u-ndam-i","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/opinion\/si-u-ndam-i\/","title":{"rendered":"Si u ndam? (I)"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"news-up\">Kam gati dy vite pa ty. M\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb dashur gjith\u00eb kjo koh\u00eb ta marr guximin t\u00eb shkruaj p\u00ebr ndarjen ton\u00eb, nga frika se p\u00ebrmallohem e t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj s\u00ebrish. Ndarja jon\u00eb ndodhi pa ndonj\u00eb tragjedi, por un\u00eb nuk i shp\u00ebtova mundimeve dhe vuajtjeje q\u00eb i bart me vete edhe sot. Nuk e di n\u00eb do t\u00eb jemi m\u00eb bashk\u00eb ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb, megjithat\u00eb shpresoj q\u00eb k\u00ebta rreshta t\u00eb jen\u00eb hera e fundit q\u00eb t\u00eb kujtoj.<\/div>\n<div class=\"news-down\">\n<div class=\"news-left\">\n<p>Ajo q\u00eb ne kishim nuk ishte dashuri e past\u00ebr. Ti gjithmon\u00eb m\u00eb k\u00ebrkoje t\u00eb paguaj p\u00ebr shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb t\u00ebnde, kurse n\u00eb shk\u00ebmbim m\u2019i plot\u00ebsoje nevojat e mia. Sa m\u00eb shum\u00eb koh\u00eb kalonim bashk\u00eb, aq m\u00eb shum\u00eb rritej mvar\u00ebsia ndaj teje dhe ashtu vazhduam bashk\u00eb p\u00ebr plot 18 vite. Nuk t\u00eb lija dot. Ti ishte gjithmon\u00eb pran\u00eb meje. Kur isha i vet\u00ebm. Kur ecja gjat\u00eb. E sidomos kur kisha brenga shum\u00eb.<\/p>\n<p>Un\u00eb e dija sa e d\u00ebmshme ishte ti. Edhe mjek\u00ebt m\u00eb k\u00ebshillonin t\u00eb t\u00eb largohem. \u201cP\u00ebrve\u00e7 vetes t\u00ebnde,\u201d m\u00eb thoshte mjeku, \u201cajo do t\u00eb shkat\u00ebrroj\u00eb edhe familjen dhe miqt\u00eb e tu p\u00ebrreth, prandaj ndaju sa m\u00eb par\u00eb!\u201d Un\u00eb megjithat\u00eb refuzoja. N\u00eb nj\u00eb takim tjet\u00ebr mjeku m\u00eb ofroi edhe mund\u00ebsin\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb filloj\u00eb terapi menj\u00ebher\u00eb pas ndarjes q\u00eb ta kem sa m\u00eb t\u00eb leht\u00eb faz\u00ebn e tranzicionit, mir\u00ebpo p\u00ebrkund\u00ebr d\u00ebshir\u00ebs q\u00eb kisha, m\u00eb mungonte vullneti dhe lidhja ime vazhdonte.<\/p>\n<p>M\u00eb tej, lidhja mes nesh ishte tmerr\u00ebsisht e kushtueshme. Edhe pas gjith\u00eb atyre viteve q\u00eb ishim bashk\u00eb, ajo asnj\u00ebher\u00eb nuk ishte n\u00eb disponimin tim n\u00ebse un\u00eb nuk\u00a0 paguaja shuma t\u00eb majme. Ajo nuk ishte prostitut\u00eb, pa marr\u00eb parasysh faktit se ishte si reklam\u00eb vitrine dhe e gatshme t\u00eb shkoj\u00eb me k\u00ebdo q\u00eb ofronte shum\u00ebn q\u00eb k\u00ebrkonte. Pra, p\u00ebrveq d\u00ebmit sh\u00ebndet\u00ebsor\u00ebajo m\u00eb shkaktonte edhe d\u00ebme financiare, mir\u00ebpo un\u00eb prap refuzoja t\u00eb mendoja ndarjen. Ajo kishte krijuar nj\u00eb var\u00ebsi n\u00eb mendjen time dhe un\u00eb tani vazhdoja t\u00eb paguaja \u00e7mimin q\u00eb t\u00eb isha af\u00ebr saj derisa ajo nuk kishte as edhe simpatin\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb vog\u00ebl p\u00ebr mua. Shkurt, var\u00ebsia tejkalonte gjith\u00eb arsyen e sh\u00ebndosh\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb q\u00ebndroja me ty, e un\u00eb megjithat\u00eb vazhdoja.<\/p>\n<p>Rreshtat e m\u00ebsip\u00ebrm tregojn\u00eb vet\u00ebm si erdh\u00ebm te ndarja, por jo p\u00ebr arsyen e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb. Prandaj, n\u00eb pjes\u00ebn tjet\u00ebr do t\u00eb mundohem t\u00eb shkruaj se si u gjend\u00ebm k\u00ebtu. Ndoshta, pjesa tjet\u00ebr do t\u00eb jen\u00eb frym\u00ebzues q\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt t\u00eb mos jen\u00eb viktim\u00eb e nj\u00eb lidhje si e imja. Ndoshta do t\u00eb jen\u00eb frym\u00ebzim p\u00ebr ndarjen e gjith\u00eb atyre q\u00eb jan\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje t\u00eb till\u00eb.<\/p>\n<p>P\u00ebrkund\u00ebr vuajtjeve, un\u00eb e dija q\u00eb duhet ta p\u00ebrfundoj k\u00ebt\u00eb lidhje. E kuptova q\u00eb nevojitej nj\u00eb p\u00ebrkushtim i madh t\u00eb largohem nga ajo. Dhe ashtu ndodhi. Vendosa dhe u ndam\u00eb.<\/p>\n<p>Deri at\u00ebher\u00eb, lamtumir\u00eb cigare!<\/p>\n<p>Me mall dhe aspak dashuri,<\/p>\n<p>Dimali<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Kam gati dy vite pa ty. M\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb dashur gjith\u00eb kjo koh\u00eb ta marr guximin t\u00eb shkruaj p\u00ebr ndarjen ton\u00eb, nga frika se p\u00ebrmallohem e t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj s\u00ebrish. Ndarja jon\u00eb ndodhi pa ndonj\u00eb tragjedi, por un\u00eb nuk i shp\u00ebtova mundimeve dhe vuajtjeje q\u00eb i bart me vete edhe sot. Nuk e di n\u00eb do t\u00eb [&hellip;]<\/p>","protected":false},"author":227,"featured_media":11724,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[2219],"ppma_author":[2218],"class_list":["post-3301","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-opinion","tag-rrefime-te-heshtura"],"authors":[{"term_id":2218,"user_id":227,"is_guest":0,"slug":"dimal-basha","display_name":"Dimal Basha","avatar_url":{"url":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/01\/images-3.jpg","url2x":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/01\/images-3.jpg"},"user_url":"","last_name":"Basha","first_name":"Dimal","description":"Dimal Basha is an Albanian-American who was born and raised in Kosovo. 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