{"id":3878,"date":"2019-09-27T14:52:09","date_gmt":"2019-09-27T12:52:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/?p=3878"},"modified":"2024-10-17T10:40:19","modified_gmt":"2024-10-17T08:40:19","slug":"marrja-mjet-i-deshtuar-per-parandalimin-e-vetevrasjeve","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/opinion\/marrja-mjet-i-deshtuar-per-parandalimin-e-vetevrasjeve\/","title":{"rendered":"Marrja: Mjet i d\u00ebshtuar p\u00ebr parandalimin e vet\u00ebvrasjeve"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Marrja: Mjet i d\u00ebshtuar p\u00ebr parandalimin e vet\u00ebvrasjeve<\/h3>\n<\/div>\n
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Kur dikush n\u00eb shoq\u00ebri vepron n\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb nuk p\u00ebrshtatet me d\u00ebshirat e grupit, ne si njer\u00ebz i kemi disa mjete sociale t\u00eb cilat i qesim n\u00eb p\u00ebrdorim n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb \u201ckorrigjojm\u00eb\u201d sjelljen e personit kund\u00ebrvajt\u00ebs. D\u00ebnimi njihet si metoda m\u00eb e shpesht\u00eb dhe m\u00eb e ashp\u00ebr \u2013 kur dikush i shkel rregullat e ngurta t\u00eb cilat i kemi vendosur (qoft\u00eb n\u00eb sht\u00ebpin\u00eb ton\u00eb apo n\u00eb rrug\u00eb) e pret d\u00ebnimi si komunikat\u00eb p\u00ebr individin dhe spektator\u00ebt q\u00eb di\u00e7ka e till\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e papranueshme. Nj\u00eb form\u00eb e d\u00ebnimit \u00ebsht\u00eb edhe marrja:\u00a0rreziku i largimit t\u00eb personave t\u00eb cil\u00ebt shfaqin sjellje q\u00eb p\u00ebr shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb e tyre jan\u00eb t\u00eb papranueshme.<\/em><\/p>\n

Si rast konkret, n\u00eb shum\u00eb shoq\u00ebri konsiderohet marre n\u00ebse nj\u00eb person i ri nuk ia l\u00ebshon karrigen n\u00eb autobus nj\u00eb personit t\u00eb moshuar. N\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrgjithshme ka merit\u00eb: indirekt e promovon nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebri ku nj\u00eb grup i personave q\u00eb ka nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr kujdesie (t\u00eb moshuarit) i jepet ajo p\u00ebr t\u00eb cil\u00ebn kan\u00eb nevoj\u00eb, pra ul\u00ebse q\u00eb mos ta lodhin veten. Spektator\u00ebt p\u00ebrreth e kuptojn\u00eb q\u00eb ky veprim ka pasoja negative n\u00eb q\u00ebndrimin e tyre social, gj\u00eb e cila personi i d\u00ebnuar e p\u00ebrjeton drejtp\u00ebrdrejt. Marrja del t\u00eb jet\u00eb goxha efektive.<\/p>\n

Ku humb efektiviteti i marres \u00ebsht\u00eb kur p\u00ebrdoret si mjet n\u00eb \u00e7do situat\u00eb t\u00eb mundshme. Var\u00ebsisht se ku jeton: marre o\u2019 burri me i thon\u00eb f\u00ebmiut t\u2019vet q\u00eb e don; marre o\u2019 \u00e7ika me u \u201ccullakav\u201d; marre o\u2019 me fol\u00eb p\u00ebr probleme t\u2019veta se \u201cp\u2019i bon t\u2019mdhaja\u201d; marre p\u00ebr vajza me fol\u00eb p\u00ebr menstruacionet; marre me e pas\u00eb gruaja rrog\u00ebn m\u00eb t\u00eb lart\u00eb se burri; marre me i ngjyros flok\u00ebt me ngjyra \u201cpa lidhje\u201d; marre me fol\u00eb p\u00ebr ndjenjat e tua; marre me ndje dob\u00ebsi; marre mos me punu mir\u00eb n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb; marre ad infinitum.<\/p>\n

Marrja p\u00ebrdoret si t\u00eb ishte mjet me shum\u00eb sh\u00ebrbime, pavar\u00ebsisht se a kryen funksion t\u00eb duhur apo jo. Shpeshher\u00eb kjo shkakton shtypje personale p\u00ebr gj\u00ebra shum\u00eb t\u00eb im\u00ebta t\u00eb cilat nuk luajn\u00eb fare rol produktiv n\u00eb shoq\u00ebri (\u201cS\u2019po m\u2019besohet q\u00eb djali<\/em>\u00a0jem\u00a0<\/strong>i ka ngjyros flokt e kaltra\u201d<\/em>). D\u00ebmet q\u00eb shkaktohen kur marrja p\u00ebrdoret n\u00eb vende t\u00eb gabuara jan\u00eb t\u00eb panum\u00ebrta, si me e shfryt\u00ebzu nj\u00eb \u00e7eki\u00e7 p\u00ebr me bo operacion n\u00eb zem\u00ebr. Nuk ka rast m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb ilustruar d\u00ebmin sesa kur shfryt\u00ebzohet si mjet p\u00ebr parandalimin e vet\u00ebvrasjes.<\/p>\n

Pa problem gjenden raste t\u00eb tilla, si shembulli i m\u00ebposht\u00ebm:<\/p>\n

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Si kontekst: Personi n\u00eb pyetje shkruan se si ndihet e stresuar nga familja \u2013 konkretisht baba, deri n\u00eb pik\u00ebn kur mendon p\u00ebr vet\u00ebvrasje.\u00a0Shkrimi origjinal \u00ebsht\u00eb thirrje p\u00ebr ndihm\u00eb<\/strong>; personi q\u00eb e ka shkruar e ka nj\u00eb problem q\u00eb nuk ka mund ta zgjidhte vet\u00eb, prandaj k\u00ebrkon mendimet e tjer\u00ebve q\u00eb t\u2019i gjejn\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje. \u00cbsht\u00eb absurde q\u00eb kur dikush k\u00ebrkon ndihm\u00eb shpesh her\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigja \u00ebsht\u00eb e llojit t\u00eb \u201cQysh bre s\u2019po din!?\u201d e dyfish m\u00eb shum\u00eb vlen p\u00ebr raste t\u00eb vet\u00ebvrasjes.<\/p>\n

Kur shkruhen ose thuhen mesazhe t\u00eb k\u00ebtilla me q\u00ebllim thurjen e ndjenj\u00ebs s\u00eb marres n\u00eb personin t\u00eb cilit i drejtohen, autori e krijon ndjenj\u00ebn n\u00eb veti se iu ka qas\u00eb problemit n\u00eb baz\u00eb, q\u00eb n\u00eb perceptimin e tyre jan\u00eb mendimet e konsideruara tabu, t\u00eb pap\u00ebrshtatshme p\u00ebr shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb. Vazhdon me jet\u00ebn e vet, s\u00eb pari t\u2019u ndje\u2019 nervoz sesi dikush ka\u00a0guxu\u00a0<\/strong>me pas\u00eb mendime t\u00eb k\u00ebtilla, s\u00eb dyti duke u gzu me vet\u00ebn qysh e ka\u00a0\u201cqit n\u2019ven<\/em>\u201d, ose n\u00eb raste jasht\u00ebzakonisht deluzionale tu e uru vet\u00ebn se qysh e ka shp\u00ebtuar personin n\u00eb pyetje nga vet\u00ebvrasja. E ka shpjeguar se vet\u00ebvrasja n\u00eb shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb ton\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e pa pranueshme, prandaj nuk duhet t\u00eb ket\u00eb ksi mendime \u2013 ngjash\u00ebm si me i lajmru pacient\u00ebt n\u00eb spital q\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb rregull me qen\u00eb t\u00eb s\u00ebmur\u00eb nga kanceri, k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb nd\u00ebrrojn\u00eb situat\u00ebn e tyre. Personi q\u00eb i n\u00ebnshtrohet k\u00ebtyre gjykimeve nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb merr m\u00ebsim tjet\u00ebr:\u00a0\u201cDeri sa nuk foli p\u00ebr k\u00ebto mendime, askush nuk m\u00eb qorton.\u201d<\/em>; problemi q\u00ebndron i pazgjedhur, q\u00eb rrjedhimisht e krijon ndjenj\u00ebn pa shpres\u00eb e cila i p\u00ebrforcon mendimet p\u00ebr vet\u00ebvrasje, ama me \u201csukses\u201d \u00ebsht\u00eb ndalur diskutimi dhe k\u00ebrkimi i zgjidhjes t\u00eb problemit.<\/p>\n

Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb boll me i than\u00eb njer\u00ebzve q\u00eb kan\u00eb nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr ndihm\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb flasin p\u00ebr problemet e tyre kur pranohen reagime t\u00eb tilla si p\u00ebrgjigje. Duhet t\u00eb krijohet nj\u00eb ambient ku fjala e par\u00eb q\u00eb del prej goj\u00ebs son\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb gjykuese dhe n\u00ebn\u00e7muese, sidomos p\u00ebr probleme q\u00eb mund t\u00eb ken\u00eb pasoja kaq t\u00eb m\u00ebdha. N\u00ebse ve\u00e7 jemi kaq k\u00ebmb\u00ebngul\u00ebs q\u00eb t\u00eb largojm\u00eb njer\u00ebz, s\u00eb paku mos t\u00eb jen\u00eb ata q\u00eb kan\u00eb m\u00eb s\u00eb shumti nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr ndihm\u00eb.\u00a0Ndoshta n\u00eb vend t\u00eb asaj kish dasht\u00eb t\u00eb drejtohet marrja tek persona q\u00eb sillen kaq ashp\u00ebr me njer\u00ebz t\u00eb cil\u00ebt shpeshher\u00eb thjesht kan\u00eb nevoj\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb ndihen t\u00eb d\u00ebgjuar!<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Marrja: Mjet i d\u00ebshtuar p\u00ebr parandalimin e vet\u00ebvrasjeve Kur dikush n\u00eb shoq\u00ebri vepron n\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb nuk p\u00ebrshtatet me d\u00ebshirat e grupit, ne si njer\u00ebz i kemi disa mjete sociale t\u00eb cilat i qesim n\u00eb p\u00ebrdorim n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb \u201ckorrigjojm\u00eb\u201d sjelljen e personit kund\u00ebrvajt\u00ebs. D\u00ebnimi njihet si metoda m\u00eb e shpesht\u00eb dhe m\u00eb […]<\/p>","protected":false},"author":53,"featured_media":8396,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[],"ppma_author":[63],"class_list":["post-3878","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-opinion"],"authors":[{"term_id":63,"user_id":53,"is_guest":0,"slug":"bind-skeja","display_name":"Bind Skeja","avatar_url":{"url":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/download-4-1.jpg","url2x":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/download-4-1.jpg"},"user_url":"","last_name":"Skeja","first_name":"Bind","description":"Bind Skeja \u00ebsht\u00eb themelues i OJQ-s \u201cQendra p\u00ebr Informim dhe P\u00ebrmir\u00ebsim Social\u201d. Studimet i ka p\u00ebrfunduar n\u00eb Psikologji Eksperimentale n\u00eb Universitetin e Yorkut. Sot ai \u00ebsht\u00eb i angazhuar si aktivist n\u00eb fush\u00ebn e sh\u00ebndetit mendor."}],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3878","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/53"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3878"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3878\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8465,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3878\/revisions\/8465"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/8396"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3878"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3878"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3878"},{"taxonomy":"author","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/ppma_author?post=3878"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}