{"id":409,"date":"2015-08-14T08:56:13","date_gmt":"2015-08-14T08:56:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/?p=409"},"modified":"2025-01-16T12:14:57","modified_gmt":"2025-01-16T10:14:57","slug":"quhet-perdhunim","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/opinion\/quhet-perdhunim\/","title":{"rendered":"Quhet p\u00ebrdhunim!"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-family: georgia, palatino;\">Leksikoni shqiptar mbi vajzat dhe grat\u00eb, kur ato jan\u00eb viktima t\u00eb dhun\u00ebs, \u00ebsht\u00eb goxha nj\u00eb\u00a0shembull i akrobatik\u00ebs mendore. Viktimat e p\u00ebrdhunimit, dhun\u00ebs, apo trafikimit ndoshta\u00a0shikohen me empati, por edhe patjet\u00ebr me nj\u00eb doz\u00eb dyshimi, me ato fjal\u00eb shp\u00eblar\u00ebse t\u00eb kultur\u00ebs son\u00eb: provokim, lavire dhe e p\u00ebrdal\u00eb.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: georgia, palatino;\">Lajmi i 14 polic\u00ebve t\u00eb implikuar n\u00eb rastin e p\u00ebrdhunimit t\u00eb dy tinejxhereve nga nj\u00eb polic n\u00eb\u00a0Suharek\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb raportuar n\u00eb holl\u00ebsi vet\u00ebm nga \u201cZ\u00ebri\u201d. N\u00eb qoft\u00eb se nuk e keni lexuar lajmin, fjala\u00a0\u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebr dy shoqe, nj\u00ebra 14 vje\u00e7are dhe tjetra 15 vje\u00e7are, t\u00eb cilat jan\u00eb raportuar si t\u00eb zhdukura\u00a0n\u00eb qershor. Nj\u00eb jav\u00eb m\u00eb von\u00eb jan\u00eb gjetur, t\u00eb ndara, n\u00eb dy motele n\u00eb Suharek\u00eb. N\u00eb deklaratat q\u00eb\u00a0i dhan\u00eb policis\u00eb, ato than\u00eb se ishin p\u00ebrdhunuar, nd\u00ebr tjerash, nga nj\u00eb rreshter i policis\u00eb me\u00a0inicialet Sh.S., i cili po ashtu menaxhon nj\u00eb klub nate n\u00eb Suharek\u00eb (sipas gjyshes s\u00eb nj\u00ebr\u00ebs prej\u00a0viktimave, vajzat kishin vizituar k\u00ebt\u00eb klub para se t\u00eb zhduken). Rreshteri u fut n\u00eb paraburgim,\u00a0nd\u00ebrsa m\u00eb von\u00eb jan\u00eb implikuar edhe polic\u00ebt tjer\u00eb, p\u00ebr fshehje t\u00eb rastit dhe ushtrim t\u00eb trysnis\u00eb tek\u00a0viktimat. Kat\u00ebrmb\u00ebdhjet\u00ebvje\u00e7ja, e cila jeton n\u00eb Itali, t\u00ebrhoqi deklarat\u00ebn e saj. Sipas\u00a0thashethemeve t\u00eb fqinj\u00ebve t\u00eb fshatit prej nga vjen, kishte marr\u00eb k\u00ebrc\u00ebnime.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: georgia, palatino;\">Mediat e kan\u00eb p\u00ebrshkruar rastin si \u201cseks me t\u00eb mitura\u201d apo \u201cmarr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie seksuale\u201d, duke\u00a0anashkaluar fjal\u00ebn e duhur: p\u00ebrdhunim. Sado q\u00eb kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb esenciale, p\u00ebr\u00a0shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb ton\u00eb si duket duhet shpjeguar akoma: t\u00eb miturat nuk konsiderohen persona t\u00eb rritur\u00a0dhe rrjedhimisht nuk mund t\u00eb japin p\u00eblqimin e tyre p\u00ebr marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie seksuale me persona n\u00eb\u00a0mosh\u00eb madhore. Shkurt e shqip: jan\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb! E sipas ligjit, nj\u00eb person i rritur nuk mund t\u00eb \u201cb\u00ebj\u00eb\u00a0seks\u201d me nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb, mu p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb k\u00ebtij relacioni jo t\u00eb barabart\u00eb. Mbyllja e k\u00ebtyre vajzave n\u00eb\u00a0motele dhe prostituimi i tyre quhet trafikim, e jo \u201caktivitete\u201d si\u00e7 e p\u00ebrshkroi \u00e7udit\u00ebrisht \u201cZ\u00ebri\u201d.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: georgia, palatino;\">Me\u00a0k\u00ebto zgjedhje fjal\u00ebsh, rasti n\u00eb t\u00ebr\u00ebsi mjegullohet, relativizohet dhe merr nuanca t\u00eb fajit t\u00eb p\u00ebrzier.\u00a0Kjo tendenca p\u00ebr t\u00eb barazuar dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjetur nj\u00eb ekuivalenc\u00eb midis ushtruesit t\u00eb dhun\u00ebs dhe\u00a0viktim\u00ebs \u00ebsht\u00eb e rr\u00ebnjosur mir\u00eb n\u00eb kultur\u00ebn ton\u00eb. Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb befasi q\u00eb ky lajm as nuk b\u00ebri buj\u00eb\u00a0shum\u00eb t\u00eb madhe, dhe as nuk zgjoi deri tani ndonj\u00eb revoltim apo protest\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb organizuar.\u00a0Edhe pse leximi midis rreshtave tregon deri diku k\u00ebt\u00eb histori: dy f\u00ebmij\u00eb shkuan n\u00eb nj\u00eb klub nate\u00a0ku menaxheri ishte polic. U zhduk\u00ebn nj\u00eb jav\u00eb. Zhdukja e tyre u raportua n\u00eb polici. Gjenden t\u00eb\u00a0mbyllura n\u00eb motele, nj\u00ebra gjendet n\u00eb nj\u00eb dhom\u00eb me nj\u00eb burr\u00eb t\u00eb rritur. T\u00eb dy vajzat thon\u00eb se\u00a0ishin p\u00ebrdhunuar disa her\u00eb, edhe nga polici i cili menaxhon klubin. E tash, sipas prokuroris\u00eb, po\u00a0dyshohet se disa polic\u00eb ishin n\u00eb dijeni p\u00ebr rastin dhe kan\u00eb heshtur. P\u00ebr \u00e7ka tjet\u00ebr po heshtin,\u00a0n\u00ebse nuk na qenka mjaft alarmante akuzimi p\u00ebr trafikim t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve nga nj\u00eb koleg\u00eb i tyre p\u00ebr t\u00eb\u00a0reaguar?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: georgia, palatino;\">Termet \u201cseks m\u00eb t\u00eb mitura\u201d dhe \u201cmarr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie\u201d nuk e tregojn\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb realitet. \u201cMarr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie\u201d\u00a0n\u00ebnkupton nj\u00eb akt i b\u00ebr\u00eb me p\u00eblqimin e dy pal\u00ebve t\u00eb barabarta. N\u00ebnkupton zgjedhje. Aludimi q\u00eb\u00a0dy f\u00ebmij\u00eb mund t\u00eb ken\u00eb marr\u00eb pjes\u00eb, me d\u00ebshir\u00eb e vullnet t\u00eb lir\u00eb n\u00eb p\u00ebrdhunimin e tyre, \u00ebsht\u00eb\u00a0thjesht mizor. Tregon shum\u00eb p\u00ebr ne dhe perceptimin e mbrapsht\u00eb dhe t\u00eb rreziksh\u00ebm q\u00eb kemi \u00a0p\u00ebr seksin n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi. Nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebri q\u00eb nuk respekton konceptin e pacenueshm\u00ebris\u00eb s\u00eb\u00a0trupave t\u00eb grave dhe t\u00eb vajzave, q\u00eb i konsideron ato si mall riprodhues apo vet\u00ebm mish, riciklon\u00a0dhun\u00eb pafund\u00ebsisht. Duke ditur k\u00ebt\u00eb mend\u00ebsi, po supozoj q\u00eb p\u00ebr disa, n\u00eb momentin q\u00eb kan\u00eb\u00a0hyr\u00eb ato dy vajza n\u00eb diskotek\u00eb (apo edhe ndoshta jasht\u00eb sht\u00ebpis\u00eb), jan\u00eb shnd\u00ebrruar n\u00eb mish p\u00ebr\u00a0konsumim &#8211; ndoshta edhe n\u00eb syt\u00eb e atyre q\u00eb kishin p\u00ebr detyr\u00eb t\u2019i mbronin.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: georgia, palatino;\">Kjo mend\u00ebsi \u00ebsht\u00eb e normalizuar. Fillon nga pun\u00ebtor\u00eb t\u00eb rasteve sociale q\u00eb i sugjerojn\u00eb grat\u00eb t\u00eb\u00a0kthehen tek abuzuesit e tyre burra. Me mjek\u00eb dhe infermier\u00eb q\u00eb lejojn\u00eb grat\u00eb t\u00eb lindin n\u00ebp\u00ebr\u00a0korridore t\u00eb QKUK-s\u00eb. Me akademik\u00eb q\u00eb thon\u00eb se viktimat e p\u00ebrdhunimit jan\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrdala apo\u00a0psikopate. Me komik\u00eb q\u00eb thon\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha grat\u00eb jan\u00eb kurva. Mend\u00ebsia jon\u00eb k\u00ebrkon prej vajzave\u00a0dhe grave past\u00ebrti seksuale, por edhe insiston se t\u00eb gjith\u00eb ne jemi kurva t\u00eb lindura.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: georgia, palatino;\">Por vjen nj\u00eb rast si ky, i cili nxjerr k\u00ebt\u00eb sh\u00ebmti n\u00eb sip\u00ebrfaqe, dhe nuk na p\u00eblqen. \u201cP\u00ebrdhunim\u201d\u00a0ting\u00ebllon shum\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00eb, \u201cmarr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie\u201d, \u201cseks\u201d, apo \u201cabuzim\u201d kap\u00ebrdihet m\u00eb leht\u00eb. Por kjo sh\u00ebmti\u00a0nuk mbulohet aq leht\u00eb. E prodhojm\u00eb dhe e riprodhojm\u00eb ne, dhe n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn koh\u00eb e\u00a0minimizojm\u00eb, duke quajtur p\u00ebrdhunimin marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie seksuale, duke pyetur si dhe pse provokoi,\u00a0duke thirrur n\u00eb nj\u00eb tradit\u00eb t\u00eb n\u00ebnshtrimit, duke p\u00ebrqeshur thirrjet p\u00ebr njer\u00ebzim bazik, duke\u00a0reduktuar grat\u00eb n\u00eb \u201ckurva\u201d dhe t\u00eb \u201cmoralshme\u201d, duke pohuar faktikisht se nj\u00eb doz\u00eb dhune \u00ebsht\u00eb\u00a0pjes\u00eb e natyrshme e lidhjeve midis dy sekseve. Tash paramendo t\u00eb rritesh si vajz\u00eb k\u00ebtu dhe t\u00eb\u00a0jesh k\u00ebto vajza n\u00eb ve\u00e7anti.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Leksikoni shqiptar mbi vajzat dhe grat\u00eb, kur ato jan\u00eb viktima t\u00eb dhun\u00ebs, \u00ebsht\u00eb goxha nj\u00eb\u00a0shembull i akrobatik\u00ebs mendore. Viktimat e p\u00ebrdhunimit, dhun\u00ebs, apo trafikimit ndoshta\u00a0shikohen me empati, por edhe patjet\u00ebr me nj\u00eb doz\u00eb dyshimi, me ato fjal\u00eb shp\u00eblar\u00ebse t\u00eb kultur\u00ebs son\u00eb: provokim, lavire dhe e p\u00ebrdal\u00eb. Lajmi i 14 polic\u00ebve t\u00eb implikuar n\u00eb rastin e [&hellip;]<\/p>","protected":false},"author":582,"featured_media":12043,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[2303],"ppma_author":[2236],"class_list":["post-409","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-opinion","tag-viktimat-e-dhunes-seksuale"],"authors":[{"term_id":2236,"user_id":582,"is_guest":0,"slug":"hana-marku","display_name":"Hana Marku","avatar_url":{"url":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/01\/headshot.jpg","url2x":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/01\/headshot.jpg"},"user_url":"","last_name":"Marku","first_name":"Hana","description":"Hana Marku, a Kosovar-Canadian writer, editor and researcher. 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