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N\u00eb vend t\u00eb urimit p\u00ebr Dit\u00ebn Nd\u00ebrkomb\u00ebtare t\u00eb Grave\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n

Thuhet se e v\u00ebrteta \u00ebsht\u00eb relative. K\u00ebt\u00eb e besoj, pasi e v\u00ebrteta ime si grua n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb pjes\u00eb t\u00eb bot\u00ebs, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb domosdoshm\u00ebrisht e v\u00ebrteta e nj\u00eb burri i cili jeton n\u00eb po t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn hap\u00ebsir\u00eb apo kontekst shoq\u00ebror me mua. Nj\u00ebkoh\u00ebsisht, e v\u00ebrteta ime nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrteta e nj\u00eb gruaje q\u00eb jeton n\u00eb nj\u00eb pjes\u00eb tjet\u00ebr t\u00eb bot\u00ebs, m\u00eb t\u00eb zhvilluar apo m\u00eb pak t\u00eb zhvilluar se kjo e imja. E v\u00ebrteta e vetme e tashme, pavar\u00ebsisht realitetit ku form\u00ebsohemi, e q\u00eb mbetet nj\u00eb realitet i hidhur, \u00ebsht\u00eb pabarazia gjinore, e p\u00ebrkthyer n\u00eb nj\u00eb padrejt\u00ebsi gjinore. Ky \u00ebsht\u00eb realiteti i t\u00eb gjitha grave kudo q\u00eb jetojn\u00eb, pavar\u00ebsisht ndryshimeve n\u00eb nuanca. Por, \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebr keqardhje, pasi ky realitet bazohet n\u00eb perceptime dhe bindje konvencionale, t\u00eb marra p\u00ebr t\u00eb mir\u00ebqena e t\u00eb v\u00ebshtira p\u00ebr t\u2019u kontestuar, p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb rr\u00ebnjosjes s\u00eb tyre nd\u00ebr shekuj. Mir\u00ebpo, perceptimet jo gjithher\u00eb e tregojn\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn, pasi ato nuk jan\u00eb e v\u00ebrteta e \u2018v\u00ebrtet\u00eb\u2019, por vet\u00ebm nj\u00eb version i s\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebs, s\u00eb dikujt apo disave.<\/p>\n

Nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb perceptimet form\u00ebsohen nga bindjet e shnd\u00ebrruara n\u00eb veprime t\u00eb p\u00ebrs\u00ebritura \u2013veprime q\u00eb i lejojm\u00eb por q\u00eb edhe i pranojm\u00eb, ndryshimi i perceptimit, me q\u00ebllim t\u00eb ndryshimit t\u00eb realitetit, duhet t\u00eb ndjek\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn logjik\u00eb. Pra, p\u00ebrs\u00ebritjen e veprimeve, por k\u00ebsaj radhe veprimet duhet t\u00eb jen\u00eb t\u00eb tjera, apo ndoshta edhe t\u00eb kund\u00ebrta. Einstein ka th\u00ebn\u00eb se, nj\u00eb problem nuk mund t\u00eb zgjidhet duke p\u00ebrs\u00ebritur veprimet e nj\u00ebjta \u2013 veprime t\u00eb cilat e kan\u00eb krijuar problemin n\u00eb radh\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb. Pra, n\u00ebse edhe sot, ne ballafaqohemi me pabarazi, me pritshm\u00ebri t\u00eb ndryshme q\u00eb shoq\u00ebria i vendos\u00eb ndaj burrave dhe grave, at\u00ebher\u00eb duhet t\u00eb fillojm\u00eb q\u00eb veprimet t\u00eb cilat na kan\u00eb sjell\u00eb aty ku jemi sot, t\u2019i tjet\u00ebrsojm\u00eb. Por, k\u00ebto veprime t\u00eb reja, duhet edhe t\u2019i shohim e t\u2019i trajtojm\u00eb si t\u00eb pranueshme, pasi vet\u00ebm k\u00ebshtu mund t\u00eb ndryshojm\u00eb perceptimin, e bashk\u00eb me t\u00eb, ndoshta edhe realitetin.<\/p>\n

Si p\u00ebr shum\u00ebk\u00ebnd, ashtu edhe p\u00ebr mua, vitet e adoleshenc\u00ebs kan\u00eb qen\u00eb vite t\u00eb tentimit p\u00ebr t\u00eb kuptuar m\u00eb shum\u00eb veten, e m\u00eb pak t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt. Por e v\u00ebrteta \u00ebsht\u00eb, se t\u00eb kuptuarit e vetes, apo th\u00ebn\u00eb m\u00eb drejt\u00eb, nj\u00eb version t\u00eb vetes n\u00eb nj\u00eb realitet t\u00eb caktuar, vjen si rezultat i kuptimit t\u00eb asaj q\u00eb na rrethon. Procesi i t\u00eb kuptuarit dhe pranimi i asaj q\u00eb jemi, \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb proces i shtrir\u00eb n\u00eb koh\u00eb dhe kontekst, p\u00ebrjetime, vendime, pse jo edhe gabime. Sidoqoft\u00eb, ajo se \u00e7far\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e sigurt, \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb ky proces, jeton dhe zhvillohet me ne, p\u00ebr aq sa jemi ne. Dhe vet\u00ebm n\u00eb fund, p\u00ebrmbledhja e t\u00eb gjitha veprimeve tona, qofshin ato veprime t\u00eb n\u00ebnshtrimit apo revoltimit ndaj nj\u00eb realiteti, do jet\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigja m\u00eb e drejt\u00eb dhe e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb se kush ishim dhe p\u00ebr \u00e7far\u00eb q\u00ebndruam. E kushdo q\u00eb thot\u00eb, se ve\u00e7se e ka gjetur veten dhe t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb edhe aq i sinqert\u00eb, sepse gjithmon\u00eb do ket\u00eb nj\u00eb \u2018nes\u00ebr\u2019 p\u00ebr t\u00eb ndryshuar bindje dhe kurs.<\/p>\n

Vajza q\u00eb kam qen\u00eb at\u00ebher\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e nj\u00ebjta me gruan q\u00eb jam sot. Sepse e v\u00ebrteta ime at\u00ebher\u00eb ndryshonte nga e v\u00ebrteta ime sot.\u00a0 N\u00ebse dikur tentoja t\u00eb p\u00ebrkufizoja veten dhe gjinin\u00eb time brenda kornizave t\u00eb vendosura nga pritshm\u00ebrit\u00eb dhe normat e pranuara shoq\u00ebrore, sot mendoj dhe besoj, q\u00eb veten si grua duhet ta p\u00ebrkufizojm\u00eb n\u00eb p\u00ebrputhje me bindjet, d\u00ebshirat, dhe ambiciet tona \u2013 edhe \u00a0\u00a0n\u00ebse ato nuk i p\u00ebrshtaten burrave, apo ndoshta edhe grave t\u00eb tjera, duke ridefinuar k\u00ebshtu pritshm\u00ebrit\u00eb dhe normat e pranuara, p\u00ebr rolet gjinore n\u00eb shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb ton\u00eb.<\/p>\n

Nj\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb tjet\u00ebr, \u00ebsht\u00eb se realiteti i sot\u00ebm mund t\u00eb mos shihet si i drejt\u00eb, si nga grat\u00eb ashtu edhe nga burrat. Mir\u00ebpo, dallimi q\u00ebndron n\u00eb faktin se p\u00ebr nj\u00ebr\u00ebn pal\u00eb, ky realitet \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb i konvenuesh\u00ebm, dhe prandaj, \u00a0iniciativa dhe incentiva p\u00ebr t\u00eb ndryshuar k\u00ebt\u00eb status quo, \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e vog\u00ebl p\u00ebr burrat se sa p\u00ebr grat\u00eb.\u00a0 Por, kur mendohet pa emocione, duke shmangur stereotipet dhe paragjykimet, nj\u00eb grua e cila zgjedh\u00eb t\u00eb q\u00ebndroj\u00eb n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi p\u00ebr t\u00eb rritur f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb pak e zonja apo m\u00eb pak e denj\u00eb, se nj\u00eb grua e cila zgjedh\u00eb t\u2019i p\u00ebrkushtohet karrier\u00ebs, apo edhe ndoshta nuk d\u00ebshiron t\u00eb ket\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb (por edhe anasjelltas). \u00c7far\u00eb e b\u00ebn dallimin, \u00ebsht\u00eb se zgjedhja e secil\u00ebs grua duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb zgjedhje ekskluzivisht e saj dhe e pa ndikuar nga rolet t\u00eb cilat ja ka caktuar shoq\u00ebria.\u00a0 Nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb, e nj\u00ebjta vlen edhe p\u00ebr burrat. Nj\u00eb burr\u00eb i cili i p\u00ebrkushtohet m\u00eb shum\u00eb familjes dhe f\u00ebmij\u00ebve sesa karrier\u00ebs, nuk duhet t\u00eb shihet si m\u00eb pak i denj\u00eb n\u00eb \u2018p\u00ebrfaq\u00ebsimin\u2019 e gjinis\u00eb s\u00eb tij.<\/p>\n

Sot jam e bindur, se t\u00eb pranosh dhe nd\u00ebrtosh nj\u00eb realitet sipas pritshm\u00ebrive t\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve, \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb barr\u00eb shum\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00eb. Kjo do n\u00ebnkuptonte q\u00eb jo ne, por dikush tjet\u00ebr, po e jeton jet\u00ebn ton\u00eb. E \u00e7far\u00eb kuptimi do kishte nj\u00eb jet\u00eb e jetuar p\u00ebr t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt apo nga t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, m\u00eb shum\u00eb sesa p\u00ebr veten? Cilat do ishin gjurm\u00ebt apo ndikimi yn\u00eb? \u00c7far\u00eb do t\u2019i jepnim k\u00ebsaj shoq\u00ebrie, apo njer\u00ebzimit? Historia tregon q\u00eb ndryshimet gjithmon\u00eb kan\u00eb ardhur nga individ\u00eb jokonvencional\u00eb, ata q\u00eb kan\u00eb \u00a0guxuar t\u00eb pyesin, por edhe t\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigjen n\u00eb pyetje t\u00eb v\u00ebshtira, ata q\u00eb kan\u00eb guxuar t\u00eb jetojn\u00eb, at\u00eb t\u00eb vetmen jet\u00eb t\u00eb tyre, sipas tyre, duke rrezikuar q\u00eb t\u00eb goditen apo t\u00eb mos p\u00eblqehen nga t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt.<\/p>\n

Si p\u00ebr shum\u00ebk\u00ebnd, ashtu edhe p\u00ebr mua, ka ekzistuar nj\u00eb moment ky\u00e7, q\u00eb ka sh\u00ebrbyer n\u00eb form\u00ebsimin tim gradual, e deri n\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb jam sot. At\u00eb dit\u00eb, nj\u00eb arsimtar i cili po na ligj\u00ebronte nj\u00eb kapitull nga l\u00ebnda e filozofis\u00eb, na tregoi p\u00ebr nj\u00eb provim t\u00eb cilin e kishte pasur vet\u00eb gjat\u00eb koh\u00ebs s\u00eb studimeve. Profesori i tij kishte hyr\u00eb n\u00eb klas\u00eb dhe u kishte shp\u00ebrndar\u00eb student\u00ebve vet\u00ebm fleta t\u00eb bardha, pa asnj\u00eb pyetje. Kur kthehet tek tavolina e tij, profesori merr nj\u00eb karrige, t\u00eb cil\u00ebn e vendos mbi tavolin\u00eb ashtu q\u00eb ta shohin t\u00eb gjith\u00eb student\u00ebt, dhe ju thot\u00eb se pyetja e vetme e provimit ishte q\u00eb student\u00ebt ta bindnin profesorin, q\u00eb ajo karrige mbi tavolin\u00eb, nuk ekzistonte. Nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb student\u00ebt kishin mbushur faqet e bardha me p\u00ebrgjigjet e tyre, profesori kishte spikatur nj\u00eb provim t\u00eb nj\u00eb studenti, i cili p\u00ebrgjigjen e kishte dh\u00ebn\u00eb me vet\u00ebm dy fjal\u00eb \u2013 \u201ccila karrige?\u201d.<\/p>\n

P\u00ebr mua, ky moment, e ajo p\u00ebrgjigje e atij studenti, m\u00eb shtyu t\u00eb mendoj \u2013 sot e k\u00ebsaj dite vazhdoj t\u00eb mendoj p\u00ebr t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn gj\u00eb. Por \u00e7far\u00eb m\u00eb ka b\u00ebr\u00eb t\u00eb kuptoj, jan\u00eb dy gj\u00ebra: e para, se pavar\u00ebsisht kompleksitetit t\u00eb problemeve, p\u00ebrgjigja shpeshher\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e thjesht\u00eb, dhe e dyta, q\u00eb n\u00ebse di\u00e7ka nuk na p\u00eblqen, apo nuk duam ta pranojm\u00eb, ajo fillimisht nuk duhet t\u00eb ekzistoj\u00eb n\u00eb mendjen ton\u00eb \u2013 duke i hapur rrug\u00eb k\u00ebshtu sjelljeve dhe veprimeve t\u00eb reja. N\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn logjik\u00eb, problemi i pabarazis\u00eb gjinore, n\u00eb dukje mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb shum\u00eb kompleks, por p\u00ebrgjigjen e ka fare t\u00eb thjesht\u00eb. N\u00ebse ne nuk duam qe ajo pabarazi te ekzistoj\u00eb, at\u00ebher\u00eb, nj\u00ebjt\u00eb si karrigia n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigjen e studentit, ajo mund t\u00eb mos ekzistoj\u00eb n\u00ebse t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn refuzojm\u00eb ta interanalizojm\u00eb. Paramendoni sikur nes\u00ebr t\u00eb gjith\u00eb ne t\u00eb zgjoheshim duke menduar dhe vepruar n\u00eb at\u00eb form\u00eb, q\u00eb burrat dhe grat\u00eb, ndon\u00ebse t\u00eb ndrysh\u00ebm p\u00ebr nga anatomia, jan\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00eb dhe p\u00ebr nga d\u00ebshira dhe nevoja p\u00ebr t\u00eb jetuar nj\u00eb jet\u00eb t\u00eb dinjitetshme dhe kuptimplot\u00eb. Nes\u00ebr do kishim gjetur zgjidhjen m\u00eb t\u00eb thjesht\u00eb. Nes\u00ebr do kishim ndryshuar sistemin. Por, nuk duhet harruar, se ndryshimi i sistemit n\u00ebnkupton ndryshimin e vetvetes n\u00eb radh\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb. E pasi sistemi jemi vet\u00eb ne, v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsia nuk q\u00ebndron m\u00eb n\u00eb ndryshimin e sistemit, por n\u00eb ndryshimin e vetes son\u00eb.<\/p>\n

E megjithat\u00eb, ndon\u00ebse sot, un\u00eb mund ta kuptoj realitetin q\u00eb burrat dhe grat\u00eb vazhdojn\u00eb t\u00eb mos jen\u00eb t\u00eb barabart\u00eb, e bashk\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb edhe arsyet dhe veprimet q\u00eb e mund\u00ebsojn\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb realitet, t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtin un\u00eb refuzoj ta pranoj. Refuzoj t\u00eb pranoj q\u00eb ky do jet\u00eb realiteti dhe e v\u00ebrteta ime p\u00ebrfundimtare.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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N\u00eb vend t\u00eb urimit p\u00ebr Dit\u00ebn Nd\u00ebrkomb\u00ebtare t\u00eb Grave\u2026 Thuhet se e v\u00ebrteta \u00ebsht\u00eb relative. K\u00ebt\u00eb e besoj, pasi e v\u00ebrteta ime si grua n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb pjes\u00eb t\u00eb bot\u00ebs, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb domosdoshm\u00ebrisht e v\u00ebrteta e nj\u00eb burri i cili jeton n\u00eb po t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn hap\u00ebsir\u00eb apo kontekst shoq\u00ebror me mua. Nj\u00ebkoh\u00ebsisht, e v\u00ebrteta ime nuk […]<\/p>","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":10251,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[14],"tags":[1764,1816,1221],"ppma_author":[109],"class_list":["post-4741","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-kritike","tag-burrat","tag-dita-e-nderkombetare-e-grave","tag-grate"],"authors":[{"term_id":109,"user_id":0,"is_guest":1,"slug":"edona-hajrullahu","display_name":"Edona Hajrullahu","avatar_url":{"url":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/Edona-Hajrullahu.png","url2x":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/Edona-Hajrullahu.png"},"user_url":"","last_name":"","first_name":"","description":"Edona Hajrullahu, tashm\u00eb gati dhjet\u00eb vite, \u00ebsht\u00eb pjes\u00eb e institucioneve t\u00eb Republik\u00ebs s\u00eb Kosov\u00ebs. Aktualisht, Edona \u00ebsht\u00eb Z\u00ebvend\u00ebse e Avokatit t\u00eb Popullit. P\u00ebr pes\u00eb vite ka udh\u00ebhequr me Agjencin\u00eb p\u00ebr Barazi Gjinore n\u00eb ZKM, n\u00eb cil\u00ebsin\u00eb e Kryshefes Ekzekutive. Fillet e karrieres i ka pasur n\u00eb fush\u00ebn e mediave, si gazetare dhe autore e emisioneve socio-kulturore, n\u00eb nj\u00eb nga televizionet nacionale. \r\n"}],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4741","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4741"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4741\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":10252,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4741\/revisions\/10252"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/10251"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4741"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4741"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4741"},{"taxonomy":"author","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/ppma_author?post=4741"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}