{"id":5243,"date":"2016-03-08T16:16:34","date_gmt":"2016-03-08T14:16:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/?p=5243"},"modified":"2024-11-21T16:18:28","modified_gmt":"2024-11-21T14:18:28","slug":"dita-kur-gruas-ju-nderlikua-jeta","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/analize\/dita-kur-gruas-ju-nderlikua-jeta\/","title":{"rendered":"Dita kur gruas ju nd\u00ebrlikua jeta."},"content":{"rendered":"
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Data: 8 mars 2016. Tufa lulesh dhe flok\u00eb t\u00eb fryra tunden n\u00ebp\u00ebr qytet, edhe pse \u00ebsht\u00eb dit\u00eb e mart\u00eb. Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb pushim zyrtar, po nj\u00eb far\u00eb atmosfere festive e lodhur po vardiset n\u00ebp\u00ebr aj\u00ebr. Afishe pa thell\u00ebsi me oferta qesharake u drejtohen gjininis\u00eb q\u00eb p\u00ebrb\u00ebn gjysm\u00ebn e popullsis\u00eb njer\u00ebzore – grave. P\u00ebrmbajtja \u00ebsht\u00eb tentativ\u00eb p\u00ebr respekt ndaj \u2018n\u00ebn\u00ebs dhe motr\u00ebs\u2019, por n\u00eb fakt po ta lexosh dy her\u00eb, e zb\u00ebrthen formul\u00ebn: pjat\u00eb p\u00ebr kok\u00eb plus pagesa arg\u00ebtuesve.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Grat\u00eb ndihen sikur kan\u00eb nj\u00eb dit\u00eblindje t\u00eb dyt\u00eb, sidomos ato t\u00eb brezave q\u00eb kan\u00eb p\u00ebrjetuar komunizmin.<\/p>\n

Sepse ato dhe t\u00eb gjith\u00eb e din\u00eb q\u00eb 8 marsi \u00ebsht\u00eb nd\u00ebrkomb\u00ebtarisht dita e grave. Se \u00e7far\u00eb kjo do t\u00eb thot\u00eb sakt\u00ebsisht, ka shum\u00eb dallim midis shteteve per\u00ebndimore dhe atyre lindore. \u00a0Grat\u00eb amerikane jan\u00eb marr\u00eb me t\u00eb drejtat e tyre dhe rritjen e pagave q\u00eb n\u00eb fillim t\u00eb shekullit t\u00eb XX; po ashtu dhe grat\u00eb n\u00eb disa prej shteteve per\u00ebndimore t\u00eb Europ\u00ebs.<\/p>\n

Mir\u00ebpo ne na intereson \u00e7far\u00eb ndodhi me grat\u00eb tona. Komunist\u00ebt n\u00eb gjith\u00eb kapin lindor e trajtuan k\u00ebt\u00eb dit\u00eb si nj\u00eb fest\u00eb n\u00eb nderim t\u00eb gruas si nj\u00eb pjes\u00ebtare e barabart\u00eb e klas\u00ebs pun\u00ebtore, tashm\u00eb “e \u00e7liruar” nga shtypja borgjeze. Por n\u00eb qoft\u00eb se besojm\u00eb \u00a0se tek kjo dit\u00eb sh\u00ebnohet barazia gjinore, vet\u00ebm sa i fryjm\u00eb perversitetit q\u00eb vazhdon edhe n\u00eb 2016.<\/p>\n

Komunist\u00ebt i nxorr\u00ebn grat\u00eb nga sht\u00ebpit\u00eb e tyre me nj\u00eb formul\u00eb t\u00eb thjesht\u00eb ekonomike: \u201cna duhet krah pune, jemi shtete t\u00eb varfra\u201d. Afishe t\u00eb realizmit socialist me imazhe t\u00eb grave duke punuar e duke treguar fuqin\u00eb e tyre fizike pushtuan muret n\u00eb qytete e fshatra. Grat\u00eb kap\u00ebn kazm\u00ebn, disa prej tyre \u2018pen\u00ebn\u2019, e t\u00eb tjerat shkuan n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb. Grat\u00eb dol\u00ebn jasht\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019i ndihmuar kolektivit.<\/p>\n

Nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb n\u00eb pamje t\u00eb par\u00eb ky gjest duket feminist duke qen\u00eb se e nxori m\u00eb ne fund gruan nga konteksti sht\u00ebpiak ku ish vendosur deri sa erdh\u00ebn sistemet totalitare, n\u00eb fakt\u00a0 s\u2019b\u00ebri tjet\u00ebr vet\u00ebm sa ia r\u00ebndoi asaj jet\u00ebn n\u00eb pik\u00ebn ku vetvetja s\u2019ekziston m\u00eb.<\/p>\n

Paralelisht me afishet me gra muskuloze t\u00eb buz\u00ebqeshura q\u00eb punojn\u00eb, nuk kishte burra duke fshir\u00eb tok\u00ebn e duke na treguar dh\u00ebmb\u00ebt. Nuk kishte burra me p\u00ebrpar\u00ebsen e gatimit duke u hedhur sup\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve ku t\u00eb gjith\u00eb jan\u00eb frikshm\u00ebrisht t\u00eb lumtur. Nuk kishte burra duke nd\u00ebrruar nj\u00eb foshnj\u00eb apo duke e v\u00ebn\u00eb at\u00eb n\u00eb gjum\u00eb. Nuk kishte asgj\u00eb drejt barazis\u00eb.<\/p>\n

Gruaja \u2018e barabart\u00eb\u2019 tani zgjohej e para, b\u00ebnte m\u00ebngjesin p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjith\u00eb, pastronte pasi konsumohej m\u00ebngjesi, vishte f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e burrin, dilte n\u00eb pun\u00eb e i m\u00ebshonte kazm\u00ebs fort, hante at\u00eb buk\u00eb q\u00eb kish marr\u00eb me vete kur kishte p\u00ebrgatitur gjith\u00eb racionet p\u00ebr gjith\u00eb familjen, vazhdonte i m\u00ebshont\u00eb kazm\u00ebs pak m\u00eb dob\u00ebt, kthehej pasdite n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, lante, hekuroste, pastronte, vinte gati drek\u00ebn p\u00ebr nes\u00ebr, shtronte dark\u00ebn p\u00ebr sot, pastronte s\u00ebrish, flinte e fundit.<\/p>\n

Grat\u00eb e reja mbetnin shtat\u00ebz\u00ebn\u00eb, punonin deri fare pran\u00eb lindjes, dhe n\u00eb krye t\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha k\u00ebtyre pun\u00ebve, shtohej dhe mir\u00ebmbajtja e foshnj\u00ebs, sepse \u201c\u00ebsht\u00eb pun\u00eb grash\u201d p\u00ebr \u00e7a me i prek\u00eb burrat bebet?! Dhe pagjum\u00ebsia thellohej e gruaja harronte se kush \u00ebsht\u00eb. Gruaja sikur u \u00e7lirua pak n\u00eb hap\u00ebsirat publike, dhe aspak n\u00eb ato sht\u00ebpiake.<\/p>\n

\u201cPor jo jo, s\u2019ka problem! I gjith\u00eb ky mund, shum\u00ebfish m\u00eb i lart\u00eb se i burrave, do t\u2019ju shp\u00ebrblehet! Sepse ju dham\u00eb juve\u2026 8 marsin!! At\u00eb dit\u00eb ju t\u00eb nderuara gra, n\u00ebnat dhe motrat e dikujt, punoni me orar t\u00eb shkurtuar, visheni bukur (ama me dinjitet!), krihuni, do t\u2019ju japim lule, f\u00ebmij\u00ebt do t\u2019ju japin lule, edhe rrini me nj\u00ebra tjetr\u00ebn gjith\u00eb dit\u00ebn si murgeshat n\u00eb manastir!! Sa bukur!!\u201d<\/p>\n

Dhjet\u00ebvje\u00e7ar\u00ebt kaluan. Duke qen\u00eb se t\u00eb drejta nuk po i jepeshin grave e as barazi gjinore, 8 marsi u desh t\u00eb degjeneroj\u00eb n\u00eb\u00a0 \u201cfest\u00ebn e n\u00ebn\u00ebs\u201d. U desh t\u00eb festohej cil\u00ebsia p\u00ebr t\u00eb cil\u00ebn grat\u00eb ekzistojn\u00eb: p\u00ebr t\u00eb lindur f\u00ebmij\u00eb.<\/p>\n

Dhe ja ku jemi, n\u00eb 2016. Sa nga ju gra lidheni me k\u00ebt\u00eb realitet sot? N\u00eb mos personalisht, me sa gra t\u00eb familjes e lidhni? Po ju burra, a e lidhini k\u00ebt\u00eb realitet me grat\u00eb e familjes suaj?<\/p>\n

Sot n\u00eb 8 mars 2016, sasia e burrave q\u00eb ndihmojn\u00eb grat\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb d\u00ebshp\u00ebrimisht e ul\u00ebt.<\/p>\n

P\u00ebrpos n\u00eb pak zona urbane, ku rrall\u00ebher\u00eb burri dhe gruaja i ndajn\u00eb gjith\u00eb detyrat bashk\u00ebshortore 50\/50, asgj\u00eb nuk ka ndryshuar. Grat\u00eb shqiptare sot ndahen n\u00eb sht\u00ebpiake dhe jo sht\u00ebpiake. Sht\u00ebpiaket ndjekin modelin shekullor t\u00eb t\u00eb ndenjurit n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi por me pun\u00ebn me koh\u00eb t\u00eb plot\u00eb t\u00eb: gatimit, pastrimit, rritjes s\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve, menaxhimit t\u00eb sht\u00ebpise. Grat\u00eb q\u00eb punojn\u00eb ndjekin modelin komunist t\u00eb pun\u00ebs m\u00eb koh\u00eb t\u00eb plot\u00eb t\u00eb: gatimit, pastrimit, pun\u00eb tjet\u00ebr me koh\u00eb t\u00eb plot\u00eb jasht\u00eb sht\u00ebpis\u00eb, rritjes s\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve, menaxhimit t\u00eb sht\u00ebpis\u00eb.<\/p>\n

M\u00eb thoni, me nj\u00eb agjend\u00eb t\u00eb till\u00eb, kush ka koh\u00eb t\u00eb mendoj\u00eb p\u00ebr veten? Kush ka koh\u00eb t\u00eb mendoj\u00eb p\u00ebr ndonj\u00eb sport, me lexu nj\u00eb lib\u00ebr, me shkrujt nj\u00eb lib\u00ebr, a me ideu nj\u00eb biznes, kur nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb punon p\u00ebr rrog\u00ebn q\u00eb merr, mendon p\u00ebr: rrobat tu u tha, drek\u00ebn p\u00ebr nes\u00ebr, frigoriferin gjys bosh, dhoma rr\u00ebmuj\u00eb e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve, lulet q\u00eb po vyshken, k\u00ebmishat p\u00ebr t\u2019u hekuros t\u00eb burrit, k\u00ebpuc\u00ebt me balt\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb familjar\u00ebve, pjes\u00ebn e parapme t\u00eb makin\u00ebs lar\u00ebse q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb mbush me pluhur, dushin e bllokuar, ngroh\u00ebsin e kal\u00e7ifikuar, milingonat n\u00eb kuzhin\u00eb, njoll\u00ebn q\u00eb s\u2019po ik\u00ebn?<\/p>\n

Edhe n\u00ebse je sht\u00ebpiake:<\/p>\n

Kush ka koh\u00eb me u emancipu, ku t\u00eb gjitha energjit\u00eb dhe intelekti shkojn\u00eb n\u00eb pun\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebndomta pa zhvillim personal, pun\u00eb q\u00eb t\u2019i ka caktu shoqeria nd\u00ebr shekuj, dhe jo ti t\u2019ia kesh caktu vetes?<\/p>\n

Vjen darka, lodhja kaplon, syt\u00eb per\u00ebndohen, dhe gjith\u00eb \u00ebndrrat dhe d\u00ebshirat e tua, n\u00ebse punon jasht\u00eb sht\u00ebpis\u00eb a jo, duhet t\u00eb presin deri nes\u00ebr, se ndoshta nes\u00ebr lirohet pak hap\u00ebsir\u00eb nga gjith\u00eb k\u00ebto pun\u00eb mekanike p\u00ebr t\u00eb mendu p\u00ebr veten.\u00a0 P\u00ebr sonte, m\u00eb mir\u00eb po shoh dashuri\u00e7kat e pakuptimta turke.<\/p>\n

T\u00eb dashura gra! Kjo NUK \u00ebsht\u00eb barazia gjinore. T\u00eb marr\u00ebsh trajtim special nj\u00eb her\u00eb n\u00eb vit pse je grua, NUK \u00ebsht\u00eb respekt. T\u00eb marr\u00ebsh trajtim special pse je \u201cn\u00ebna\u201d apo \u201cmotra\u201d apo \u201cgruaja\u201d e dikujt NUK \u00ebsht\u00eb respekt. T\u00eb ngrihesh n\u00eb piedestal pse ke lindur disa f\u00ebmij\u00eb NUK i ndihmon zhvillimit t\u00ebnd.<\/p>\n

Ti nuk ke aft\u00ebsi t\u00eb kufizuara p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb gjinis\u00eb. Nuk ke patur kurr\u00eb.<\/p>\n

E nes\u00ebrmja nuk do t\u00eb vij\u00eb kurr\u00eb n\u00ebse nuk ia shtron ti terrenin. E terreni shtrohet duke l\u00ebshuar gjith\u00eb p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsit\u00eb q\u00eb t\u2019i ka veshur shoq\u00ebria nd\u00ebr shekuj pa t\u00eb pyetur hi\u00e7, vijuar me ri-p\u00ebrcaktimin e k\u00ebtyre p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsive nga vet\u00eb ti, bashk\u00eb me bashk\u00ebrshortin apo njer\u00ebzit me t\u00eb cil\u00ebt ti ndan jet\u00ebn.<\/p>\n

Vet\u00ebm pse di\u00e7ka \u00ebsht\u00eb tradit\u00eb, nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e dobishme.<\/p>\n

– Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb detyr\u00eb vet\u00ebm e jotja p\u00ebr t\u00eb ushqyer gjith\u00eb familjen. N\u00ebse s\u2019te josh gatimi, shih k\u00eb e josh n\u00eb familje. (N\u00eb fund t\u00eb fundit, shefat m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb jan\u00eb burra!)<\/p>\n

– Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb detyr\u00eb vet\u00ebm e jotja p\u00ebr t\u00eb pastruar sht\u00ebpin\u00eb q\u00eb e b\u00ebn pis gjith\u00eb familja. Burrat nuk i kan\u00eb duart e paafta.<\/p>\n

– Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb detyr\u00eb vet\u00ebm e jotja p\u00ebr t\u00eb rregulluar gjith\u00eb rr\u00ebmuj\u00ebn q\u00eb e b\u00ebn gjith\u00eb familja. Burrat nuk i kan\u00eb duart e paafta.<\/p>\n

– Nuk \u00ebsh\u00eb detyr\u00eb vet\u00ebm e jotja t\u00eb grupohesh me grat\u00eb e tjera t\u00eb familjes p\u00ebr t\u2019i sh\u00ebrbyer gjith\u00eb pjes\u00ebtar\u00ebve. Burrat nuk i kan\u00eb duart e paafta.<\/p>\n

– Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb detyr\u00eb vet\u00ebm e jotja t\u00eb kujdesesh p\u00ebr foshnjet. Burrat nuk i kan\u00eb duart e paafta.<\/p>\n

– Shprehje t\u00eb tipit \u201cvet\u00eb e k\u00ebrkova\u201d \u201cturp, \u00ebsht\u00eb dhe fem\u00ebr\u201d, \u201ceh po t\u00eb till\u00eb jan\u00eb burrat\u201d, jan\u00eb t\u00eb f\u00eblliqta.<\/p>\n

– Nuk e kan\u00eb t\u00eb neovjshme vet\u00ebm burrat me dal\u00eb me shok\u00eb me pi birra. Neve s\u2019na ka goja lesh.<\/p>\n

– F\u00ebmij\u00ebt e kan\u00eb t\u00eb domosodoshme prezenc\u00ebn e n\u00ebn\u00ebs vet\u00ebm sa jan\u00eb n\u00eb gji. Pastaj, ti je po aq e lir\u00eb sa burri yt.<\/p>\n

Nuk t\u00eb b\u00ebn \u201cnuse t\u00eb mir\u00eb\u201d fakti q\u00eb je e virgj\u00ebr apo se je sh\u00ebrb\u00ebtore e vjehrrit e vjehrr\u00ebs. Nusja e mir\u00eb nuk ekziston. Ekziston vet\u00ebm respekti reciprok.<\/p>\n

N\u00ebse guxon e i liron pak hap\u00ebsir\u00eb vetes, do t\u00eb kesh koh\u00eb t\u00eb mendosh, t\u00eb kuptosh kush je, \u00e7ka do, t\u00eb duash veten, dhe m\u00ebson t\u00eb mos duash ata q\u00eb s\u2019t\u00eb duan.<\/p>\n

8 marsi nuk ka pse ekziston. 8 marsi \u00ebsht\u00eb ofendim. Ti nuk je m\u00eb pak e zgjuar se burri q\u00eb t\u00eb mos e kuptosh. Ti nuk je e verb\u00ebr q\u00eb mos t\u00eb shikosh.<\/p>\n

Ajo \u00e7ka duhet t\u00eb ekzistoj\u00eb e \u00e7ka duhet t\u00eb reflektosh fort n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb dit\u00eb, \u00a0\u00ebsht\u00eb respekti reciprok midis gruas dhe burrit, \u00a0dy njer\u00ebz q\u00eb n\u00eb fakt, dallojn\u00eb vet\u00ebm nga organet gjenitale.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Data: 8 mars 2016. Tufa lulesh dhe flok\u00eb t\u00eb fryra tunden n\u00ebp\u00ebr qytet, edhe pse \u00ebsht\u00eb dit\u00eb e mart\u00eb. Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb pushim zyrtar, po nj\u00eb far\u00eb atmosfere festive e lodhur po vardiset n\u00ebp\u00ebr aj\u00ebr. Afishe pa thell\u00ebsi me oferta qesharake u drejtohen gjininis\u00eb q\u00eb p\u00ebrb\u00ebn gjysm\u00ebn e popullsis\u00eb njer\u00ebzore – grave. P\u00ebrmbajtja \u00ebsht\u00eb tentativ\u00eb p\u00ebr […]<\/p>","protected":false},"author":160,"featured_media":10622,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[13],"tags":[1949,1050,1007],"ppma_author":[189],"class_list":["post-5243","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-analize","tag-8-marsi","tag-feminizmi","tag-te-drejtat-e-grave"],"authors":[{"term_id":189,"user_id":160,"is_guest":0,"slug":"lura-elezi","display_name":"Lura Elezi","avatar_url":{"url":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/download-19-1.jpg","url2x":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/download-19-1.jpg"},"user_url":"","last_name":"Elezi","first_name":"Lura","description":"Lura punon si konsulente p\u00ebr marketing dhe marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet me publikun p\u00ebr sektorin privat n\u00eb Shqip\u00ebri e Kosov\u00eb. Ajo ka mbaruar studimet n\u00eb AUBG, Blagoevgrad, Bullgari p\u00ebr marketing dhe komunikim masiv. Kur i jepet mund\u00ebsia edhe shkruan, qoft\u00eb n\u00eb kuad\u00ebr t\u00eb profesionit, qoft\u00eb p\u00ebr qejf. Sa i p\u00ebrket \u00e7eshtjeve sociale, ajo prej vitesh \u00ebsht\u00eb aktivisht prezente n\u00eb media dhe n\u00eb terren p\u00ebr mbrojtjen e kafsh\u00ebve t\u00eb rrug\u00ebs, p\u00ebr barazin\u00eb gjinore, si dhe mb\u00ebshtetjen e komunitetit LGBT."}],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5243","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/160"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5243"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5243\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":10623,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5243\/revisions\/10623"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/10622"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5243"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5243"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5243"},{"taxonomy":"author","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sbunker.org\/sr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/ppma_author?post=5243"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}